cant get over him

[charlotte247]

hello!
well i posted on here a few months back about a guy i liked, well erm....we dated for a while, everything was perfect, kissing, cuddling etc etc but then the break up......it was a bit messy. seriosuly messy actually, well there was lots of arguements, violence, shouting, and needless to say i never seen him again. But then the other day, i seen him. and then all of a sudden all my feelings came rushing back. now i cant get him out of my head, i dream about him, think about him all the time, and i finally realised that i love him, i always have, and i know i cant have him. he's the only person i've ever wanted.
so i guess im trying to find out ways to forget? not an easy answer i guess but any help would be apppreciated!

[Kaylz1988]

Theres nothing that will stop you feeling like this. Apart from time.

Maybe you should do a few things with your mates, go away for a week, keep your self occupied. And just dont contact him whatever you do.

Eventually you'll get to the stage where you wont even think about him...

[silentears]

heya, i understand exactly were you are coming from more than you know. im in a very similar situation myself and currently in love with this guy, but the difference is ive never had him and doubt i ever will. im trying to move on and its getting easier, ive tried pretty much all methods like denying i have feelings for him, shutting him out of my life and not communicating with him and refusing to mention him at all. but this doesnt work cos you want to go there even more if you get me....basically the best method i think is just to think right i love this guy and im always going to not matter what and its going to take along time to move on from, acceptance is the first step to moving on thats what ive found anyway. i hope this helps...but considering you were together what do you think would happen if you tried to contact him again? did you actually speak when you saw him?

[sam100]

You have to be really harsh to yourself. If u can delet all phone numbers to avoid insecure moment/drunk texts. U need to get busy and keep occupied. Its the only way thu it im afraid and its REALLY HARD. u split up for a reason and no matter what u may be thinking at the mo it was a good enough reason to split up, just coz ur having a low moment doesnt mean its gone away.
Best of luck!x

[liquidspace]

charlotte - I know where you are coming from. I feel like this about an ex of mine but I think the reality is that if you got back together the old problems would resurface after a while. The problems were there in the first place for a reason and unless that reason or trigger has changed then the problems will remain.

silentears - I am in same situation as you. I am crazy for someone at work, I have hinted to him that I like him, he knows I do, he has a girlfriend but I know I would do anything for him, drop anything for him, marry him if he asked. Its a mad feeling that I cant control, it is the way it is. One day I hope he can return my feelings.

[sam100]

there is this really amazing book that u should get. its called "its called a break uo because its broken" and its by greg behrendt & amiira rutola-behrendt. its available on amazon and is superb for all those in end of the road relationships or in emotional heartache. i wished i had got it years ago!!!

[LLASY]

What is making you feel so intense is the fact that you know you can't have him, it is a phsycological thing. It seems to me it was aphysical thing initially and then you really start to got to know one another properly - you clearly are not matched! If he were to come running back you would change your mind completely, believe me. It went wrong once and it will go wrong again if the truth be known. Try to move on and don't waste any more time and energy thinking this way. There are lots of other guys out there but try to get to know them first before all the physical stuff!