In answer to jojojo......
Here we have a gay man (or perhaps he would be more comfortable as being described as a man-who-has-sex-with-other-men; "I'm not a poof but my boyfriend is........"), who has seen fit to marry a lady woman of the opposite sex.......so far so not-that-unusual. However, at some point (it doesn't matter whether this is before or after the marriage) he has taken up a calling and the very Book/manual to prescribe and proscribe the way in which he lives his life has many things to say which are contrary to the way in which he is conducting himself. Most importantly, to my mind, he is cheating on his wife. Even if she is turning a blind eye, she has tacitly agreed that she has married a man whose nature is contrary to that acceptable to the Church as it stands.
I cannot for the life of me conceive why anyone should wish to join the ranks of an organisation which stigmatises, patronises, persecutes and condemns the true nature of that person.
Just how many blacks were there in the KKK ?