parents that have split up who should the child live with mother or father

[shanx]

do you think that is old fashioned that children are better off with the mother whatever the mother does, it upsets me that there are so meany fathers out there that would make a better father than the mothers,and should get custody of there child

[leg_end758]

women do use kids.
my ex wife is a fkin b1tch.

excuse me but its right fkd off to slag it wiv other guy.
married him .
then turned my 2 daughters against me.
dont give me any theyll grow out of it sheet either
at 16 and 19 how fkin long i gotta wait?
been 10 years now.
she still wont let me cakll her house to talk to them.
and she was the **** doin the dirty
go figure eh?

thank fk not all women are durty b1tches like that.

sadly some are.

kids are only leverage.

and some are experts at it.

hope they get theirs barstewrds grrrrrrrrrrrr

[shanx]

good luck louisa, so pleased you have met someone who realy cares about you and your son , move on and enjoy your life XX

[Petal~flower]

think either parents can be vile Legend

My ex boyfriend used to smile as he told me his kids called his ex wife (their mum) a slag. I told him it was terrible for them to call her that. But he just shrugged it off

Kids should never be used as a weapon between parents.

[shanx]

thats true petal there are good and bad ,fathers and mothers,but whatever gender i dont like children use as weapons, they are innocent babys

[Louisa 69]

Thanks Shanx and as i said before i wish you and your family all the best. xx

Legend i feel for you i really do. I sometimes wonder why can't the nasty guys meet the nasty women and the nice guys meet the nice women. But sadly life doesn't work like that.

[Petal~flower]

I totally agree with you shanx. My ex husband and I separated 9 yrs ago. No matter what differences we had/have. We always put the children first. The children see their dad every fortnight (it could be more as he lives locally) But the arrangement has stayed the same, and the children are happy and feel secure I hope.

I still moan about him lol

[Ice-Maiden]

It's good to hear that Louisa - and because I forgot to say it before, good luck with your new partner. Anyway, I was just making an observation about these cases in general. I'm sure your son's well loved and cared for, but if he asks about his paternal father, you can only be straight forward without running the man down too much. As time goes on, this man'll probably come to realise how unfair his absence was, and it'd be wonderful if you could all get on in the future. All the best - x.

[juliacornwal]

I'm on your side, Shanx, and in the same boat as well. My son left his partner because of her physical and verbal abuse, but eighteen months on she still abuses him, threatens to refuse him access to the children, rings him up to scream at him at all times of the day and night and generally makes his life very uncomfortable.

My husband and myself took on the task, last January, of turning our two and a half year old monstrously damaged grandson into a proper little boy, and with access to him a couple of days a week, plus his father's influence at weekends, we've managed to find the smiling, lovely kid in there, but I have to stay absolutely neutral in the face of considerable provocation, otherwise I could so easily lose access.

I get so angry when I hear her using appalling language in front of my grandson and his sister, and I know my son and his new partner would make much better parents, but the law would never allow such a thing, despite the fact that she drinks too much and smokes pot.

I find the law concerning father's rights in this country completely absurd!

[theonlyone]

My nephew was granted full custody of his son and it all went really well , until he decided he wanted to socialize with the girls where he lived . So to cut a long story short the boy now lives with his maternal Grandma , and my nephew is an alcoholic ,and his son despises him . So every one has a different story to tell .