I am going to go mad!!!

[unhappychick]

I posted a question on here about 3 weeks ago, about my partner moving in with me, and the subsequant costs of things, he was giving me �50 a week towards the shopping and said if the bills come in he would give me half the money, the problem I had with this, is some of it direct debit and one of the other bills is a key meter, so I asked people on here if they thought �100 a week was a fair contribution towards the running/upkeep of the house, all replies I got, said it was value for money and that he should be paying more, which I didnt ask for anymore, was happy with �100...however on Saturday he said he wanted to talk to me, and said he thought his contribution of �100 a week was far too much and that he had spoken to other people, and they thought it was extortionate!!! Baring in mind, he doesnt want for anything here, he refuses to eat rubbish and always get a fresh meal cooked for him, and he takes a cooked lunch to work as well, I do all the washing and ironing, and generally run the house, that �100 includes food, gas, electric, tv licence, water rates, phone and internet fees, and he is still argueing with me about it, despite the fact that I have shown him the bills and calculated everything fair n square, 50/50, he has a good job and earns triple what I earn. Before moving in with me, he lived with his parents and never paid any housekeep, he is a man in his 30's, and I cannot believe that he is questioning me on this, and is asking all and sundry what they think, I feel its an insult, and am upset by his action/reactions to this, am I being unfair here???

[ummmm]

Fair play :-)

[zzxxee]

make him pay for the lot

[wolf63]

I gave an answer based on the information given and which I accepted to be correct. I apologise if you feel that we gave replies based on this.

The only crucial thing here is that you both sit down and talk about this matter and reach an agreement that you both like and agree with.

What WE think of the situation is irrelevant. You both have to live with with the decisions that you make.

Good luck for the future.

[LaughingGirl]

I read with great interest both of your views, I was in a similar position as UHC, like her I have my property paid for, no mortgage any more, I was on my own with 3 children, I met a new man almost 4 years ago, the best thing thats ever happened to me and not because of financial gain, from day 1 I never had to ask him for money he paid almost everything with out being asked which I objected to and insisted on contributing, he has told me he enjoys looking after us physically and financially as he feels hes responsible and above all does everthing for us because he loves us all.
Your friend Scrooge said about paying 1/3 he must love money more than being in a loving relationship.
How can you put a price on true love.
Perhaps he has never truely loved. The HUMBUG.
�100 per week is really a very small amount to live on, even if you were only keeping yourself.
IF YOU TRULY LOVE HER DON'T LET MONEY COME BETWEEN YOU, Hope it all works out for you both

[madmaggot]

Why don't you just open a joint account that you both pay the same amount into and pay all expenses to do with the property and food from that account. Strikes me if you're falling out about money at this stage in the relationship you might as well pack it in now.

[Octavius]

Frankly, I would be more disappointed by the posts with pink background than any taking issue with any of those from other cyber peeps.

Anyhow, I hope the storm has settled and (un)Happychick that you are both happily cohabiting with a nice tidy �200 a week contribution from your boyfriend. :0)