what are the consequences?

[samsworld]

recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a much younger girl. i have confronted her and told her i will inform her parents, i think something which would be mortifying, well it would if it happened to me the shame of it. is there anything wrong or illegal in phoning her dad up at work and telling him just how moralistic his daughter is and how he must have brought her up badly. ive heard all the takes two to tango stuff, ive already dealt with hubby shall we say. i just feel i want closure on this girl and i wont stop til ive done something to ruin her life too, but will this? anyone else done a similar thing out there and if so what were the consequences? wanting to know too if its illegal to do this in case its classed as slander, though who can prove the phone call? after all its freedom of speech and all that isnt it?!

[Mctavish]

Earlier in the thread you posted that her parents think she is a wonderful girl - how do you know what they think about their daughter - who told you that they think she is wonderful ?

[society]

Looks like Samsworld has taken Jack's advice and dial the "90 90 90" number, she's gone. lol

[cherrychapstick]

yes she will be back but a different name again i think and say she hasn't been on before oh well xxx

[wiggal]

Oh blimey! And there was me splitting up with Mr Wiggal last week because I had feelings for a man 17 years older then me!
Although slightly different, the other man to me has not long been split up from his missus and has 2 kids - I hope my mum doesnt think that badly of me!!

[cherrychapstick]

mrs wiggal go to your room i am disgusted in you!!! you will stay there till you behave

[samsworld]

this is my life you are pulling to shreds right now, hasnt that happened enough already. you ask what have her parents done wrong, well for a start they brought her into this world and they should know what a slapper she is. yes told my inlaws about hubby too and all that. believe me it was a huge shock to find out what was going on, shouldnt someone else share the hurt and shock too, especially when this girl, yes girl, has not considered me. and yes i did come back on here, why not. andy hughes i take onboard all you say but when you are hurting so much its very difficult.

[4getmenot]

people are trying to make you see, Your will keep hurting unless you move on and get this girl out your life, carrying it on will only make matters worse. x

[ummmm]

Well then it is best to wait for the hurt to subside before you react.

Again though....why should her parents be hurt over this. She's a grown woman and is responsible for her own actions.

Again though....It was your husband that betrayed you...not this WOMAN and certainly not her parents. Be very careful....parents tend to be very protective over their off spring.

[cherrychapstick]

how are we the ones pulling it to shreds you asked for advice we gave it you don't like it ,oh i now see how we are pulling it to shreds!!! just because we don't agree with you it doesn't make us wrong one day you may thank us(that would have been the polite thing to do!!) if you want to stay with your husband do that but forgive and forget ,i have seen this too many times in my life thankfully i have not been through it myself but i have seen good friends going through this i gave them different advice to what i gave you at first because they still wanted to be with their wife's/husbands but also gave them the advice i gave you ,they could not accept the fact of what their oh's done and years down the line ended it (once a cheat always a cheat )sorry but that is fact do not delay the inevitable do it now for your own sanity (they now live on anti-depressants) do you want that for you ,i don't know you but i think you are stuck there thinking but i can't be on my own,...... you can


that's all i have to say on this matter i hope you make the right choice for you,and wish you all the happiness in your life xx Cherry xx

[andy-hughes]

I am glad you have taken on my comments samsword - as I have doine yours, and I appreciate that you are very hurt and angry and feel as though some sort of revenge would make you feel better.

The revenge you are planning will not salve your pain - only time can do that, and in time, hopefully you will be glad that you did not take this action.

I understand your anger at this woman's parents, but you must know that it is misplaced, and they cannot be held responsible for the actions of their adult daughter - although they would feel so, even though there is nothing they can do.

I hope you will allow this rage to pass - and it will - and realise that the guilty party - your husband - is where your anger, and hopefully your healing, lies.

[joko]

you know what id do if i was this girl and you phoned my parents up and told them?
...i'd turn it all on you...id phone your work, your friends...id make some terrible stories up about you...embarass the carp out of you
do you really want to suffer her revenge? we have alreayd established she couldnt care less about you...
i dont b;ame you wanting some sort of revenge... but you really mneed to be more discrete and clever about it...this way you just sound bitter and sorry to say a tad unhinged...