Hi, sparks.
I've just been reading your thread, and I'm really interested to know how things have turned out.. Have you spoken to your partner yet?
I'm a great believer in having kids while you are young. You say your partner's cousin has her first child in her forties. Nothing wrong with that. But maybe you would not want to be sixty when you are sending you child off to university.
Anyway, please post your update and let us know how things are going, and I wish you all the best.