thanks again. i am really easygoing and genuinely interested in other people. because of my work, i often spend time informally counselling colleagues, friends and neighbours when the sh*t hits the fan and they need someone to talk to. often, people just need to hear that they are in fact, 'normal' and not some freak (ioi!) and there are options and time for them to sort things out. i don't like to raise my blood pressure if i can help it as i am a nice, quiet homebody - i study for my Msc, read, do crosswords or watch films. all relaxing and my favourite places to be.you're quite nice too, madmen ;-)