Would Like Some Advice

[treebear]

Some years ago one of my best mates was sent to prison. Before the sentence he gave all his money to a friend of mine. I stood close to him because I needed to know the truth ( all his other friends disappeared at the beginning) I helped him admit his quilt without the need for his accusers to testify. He is soon to be released and recently the person who has looked after his money has given to me saying they have no wish to ever talk to him again. I have talked to his ex wife suggesting that his children should have it., but she too won't touch it. So I am on the horns, this cash was part of his and his wife's she does not want it the person he gave it to does not want it. I took hold of this money because I thought his ex wife would take it. I feel that it is his children that should benefit but how do give it to them with their mothers knowing

[Canary42]

You could always give it to the victims of his crime (if there are any).

[Peter Pedant]

No canary bleep bleep

he will only feel good until P gets outa prison.

Prison I have noticed does not purify and cleanse an angry personality
Hence my advice on what treebear does if he finds his fingernails being pulled out....

[trt]

freebear, you have been told about 25 times to give him the money when he gets out, but you still keep making excuses WHY!

How much money are you talking about and is it stolen or otherwise?

[treebear]

Thanks for your comments they have been useful

[dunnitall]

Just been reading through this, how nice to see advice is taken and your problem is solved treebear, usually things don't have a good ending when it goes round in circles on here. Good luck and good luck to your "friend" too.

[treebear]

The money was earned not stolen but was earned by her not him She has refused to take this money even though she is short of money herself
But Thats where our problem lies ..in a few months he will be released and his children and ex wife will still be broke and I have money that could help them but she won't let me give it to them

[trt]

## and ex wife will still be broke and I have money that could help them but she won't let me give it to them ##

More fool her then!

[treebear]

My problem is I think the children deserve the money but how can I do this when their parents are so against it !!!!!

[dunnitall]

TB I thought it was solved. It's not your problem, you are looking after the money it is not yours to decide to whom it should be given. You are the keeper for the owner, if she doesn't want it..the wife, give back to the soon to be ex prisoner. It really is as easy as that. Despite who YOU want it to go to, it is not your choice, all done, solved and correct methinks and so do most others here who have taken the trouble to answer your plea for advice. Night, night.

[treebear]

Hey guys
from the start most have said the monies are his
wasn't convinced at the outset but believe that your opinions have put my mind at ease
thanks

Treebear

[Svejk]

Be honest, tree-bear. You've already spent his money, haven't you?

[EDDIE51]

you are ignoring the obvious IT IS HIS MONEY. It is not yours to do as you like with. No matter how he got it it is his and you have to return it. If you do not return it you will have stolen it and he can have you arrested / charged with theft. You may not want to return it but legally you have no other choice so just GIVE IT BACK.

[Connemmara]

I have read your posts a bit - but somewhere I think perhaps you were hoping that some of us out there (you hoped were may telling you keep the money surrepetitiously"

To me it is straight and forward. You have the money - when he gets out - give it to him - goodbye. After that none of your business. Even if wife and so come to you afterwards - you say see your husband. that is very straightforward. but you need to give him back that money.

[grasscarp]

Treebear, I am really glad that our posts last night helped you. Best of luck for your friend on his release and I hope that his future goes well for him and ex wife and children. As someone else said - nice Avatar which colour coordinates with the box surrounding Questions here!

[Connemmara]

PS - you cannot open a bank account in their (children's name) they have to be there. This happened to me when I opened an account for my nephew - he had to be there.

[boxtops]

treebear - just one extra word - when you see him and give him back the money, if you give him a cheque rather than a pile of moolah, you have proof that you gave it to him. Make sure he signs a receipt for it, keep that safely with the cheque stub and a note of when the cheque clears your bank account.

[EDDIE51]

boxtops if he has just come out of jail after several years he quite likely does not have a working bank account. If he had a bank account surely he would just have put the cash in it.
treebear as I have said , what you 'feel' should happen to the money does not come into it, you have to give it back the the person whose money it is, your mate!

[modeller]

I think there is something more to this story than you are telling us.
However your ' best mate ' didn't give the money to you. He gave it to a friend of yours. I assume he was also another ' best or better mate '.
A bit strange !
However you have the money now . Will he be coming to you for it ?
Are you afraid of his reaction , if you say you have ' disposed' of it ?
Why have all his so called friends walked out on him ?
Why is his wife refusing the money ? Is she afraid of him ?

You have been given good advice IMO but I believe there is something you are holding back. Sorry but the story doesn't ring true.