Hi jude sorry about the footy :o(
Didn't see qom's thread but I would be a terrible meddling inferring old m-i-law. And heaven help the sod who hit her. She did have one horrible boyfriend in Barca, It started off OK but from what she told me I could see it coming, she couldn't! but when he started being possessive and nasty and threatening to kick in her windows, well then I stepped in, not to him, but I told her it wouldn't get any better, and would lead to violence (having been there myself) I went against all advice, and luckily she listened to me and came back here to get away from him. Yes I would step in all the time, not if they were little tiffs and spats, but if I could see nastiness.