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Elderly Dying.......
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My Mum is 90 years old, in a nursing home, and has now stopped eating and drinking and I have been told she doesn't have long.
How long can she live without drinking or eating?
At my wits end here, I'm so upset and its not even happened yet - its not helping with Christmas coming either :-(
How long can she live without drinking or eating?
At my wits end here, I'm so upset and its not even happened yet - its not helping with Christmas coming either :-(
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Thank you for your replies. My Mum isn't really ill so to speak - it is just 'old age'. She has been confined to bed for 7 weeks now and has slowly got worse and she has lost so much weight, just skin and bones now :-( They cant get any of her tablets down her.
The past 10 days she has hardly been awake - I think she has just given up now.
The past 10 days she has hardly been awake - I think she has just given up now.
Ah, bless her. Its hard I know, in fact its impossible, but its time to let her go.
Do your best to start thinking that way, remember the good times, talk to her about them and prepare yourself to say goodbye .... Until the next time of course whenever that comes.
Take care and allow yourself to feel just whatever it is you need to feel.
Do your best to start thinking that way, remember the good times, talk to her about them and prepare yourself to say goodbye .... Until the next time of course whenever that comes.
Take care and allow yourself to feel just whatever it is you need to feel.
good evening yelenots
as you say, it would appear that your mother does not have long.
may i hypothesize that she could be aware of this, and has decided not to prolong hers, and your suffering
i have a good idea of what you are going through, as my father had prostate cancer back in late 2005.
as christmas approached, he deteriorated fast, and finally succumb at eight thirty christmas eve - with me and two mcmillan nurses in attendance
i offer you my most profound sympathies and prayers
This takes me back to 2007, Mum quite poorly in a nursing home. She couldn't/wouldn't eat. Just sipped at water. She kept saying she wanted to see her Mum. In the end We had a cuddle, and I said to her, "Go and see your Mum, she is waiting".
I think that was what she wanted to hear. She went three hours later, very peacefully.
Afterwards, I felt so guilty, as if I had hastened her demise, but in the following years, I ealised I had done and said the right thing.
Thinking of you at this sad time.
I think that was what she wanted to hear. She went three hours later, very peacefully.
Afterwards, I felt so guilty, as if I had hastened her demise, but in the following years, I ealised I had done and said the right thing.
Thinking of you at this sad time.
The nursing home have said that she will just pass away in her sleep.....just dread the phone ringing.
ferlew.....a couple of weeks ago the nurse asked my mum what she would like for xmas....her reply was - she would like her parents :-( Seems like no matter how old you are you still want your Mum & Dad, its so sad
ferlew.....a couple of weeks ago the nurse asked my mum what she would like for xmas....her reply was - she would like her parents :-( Seems like no matter how old you are you still want your Mum & Dad, its so sad