Is Being A Top In A Bdsm Relationship Really About Empowerment?

[rowanwitch]

Just thinking about this, a friend used to say she liked being dominant as she was able to work through a lot of bad stuff from her life She wouldn't switch roles because of early abuse but did say she enjoyed the responsibility for her partner. He used to say it was all about freedom, when you are completely disempowered in a safe space it is the nearest thing to total freedom. For me it was just a bit of a laugh between consenting adults. What do others think

[1ozzy]

Less than 24 hours a member and laying down the law of AB?
Well done Cornetto.

[seekeerz]

Perhaps Cornetto is not aware this was posted under Body & Soul, where sensible ABers can discuss all facets of life without degrading the subject and other members

[tamborine]

bdsm for me is breakfast in bed, my back scratched, massage & podiatrik

[seekeerz]

Oooo sounds good to me too, tambo :)

[Kromovaracun]

Body and Soul is exactly the place to discuss sex and sexuality.

If you don't like it then perhaps refrain from sticking your beak in and use another section of the site. It's a big place, there's room for all of us.

[1ozzy]

;-)

[rowanwitch]

Perhaps he's on his own so......... just one cornetto,
He should have been on here a few years back. Now that was filthy

[BagPussAA]

It is not a laugh for me, It is my life, lifestyle.
I am a full time submissive and my partner is my full time Master/Dominant. I find it very empowering to be dominated as it brings order to my life where most of the time there is chaos. For him, he finds it an excellent way of looking after me. I have Asperbergs as well as bipolar disorder and suffer badly from Social Anxiety disorder. When he is in control, he knows that I panic less, stress less and feel more comfortable around people.

[jim360]

You should stop asking questions about things you don't give a hoot about, N. This wouldn't be the first time you've speculated about private details of my own sexual life either -- which, I'd venture to suggest, means that you give rather more of a "hoot" than you'd care to admit.

In any case, stop being so judgemental.

[naomi24]

Jiom, I haven't speculated about you. You offered information - and I said I couldn't give a hoot about your sex life. No speculation in that.

[naomi24]

Oh and ... //In any case, stop being so judgemental. //

Why? The AnswerBank is no place for the conversation you people are having.

[jim360]

I was referring to elsewhere, where you made several (completely wrong) guesses/speculations about me and my love life -- you're welcome to trawl through various threads on the subject to confirm that.

On this thread, meanwhile, all I've told you about is what I'm *not* into, so ...

[jim360]

Feel free to report the thread, then, and if the Editorial team agrees it will go. But the Answerbank is certainly no place to cast moral judgements on other members, and that's even more explicitly stated, so if that's all you have to offer to this thread then I'm not sure why you are even here any more.

[naomi24]

Jim, I'm here in response to your post to me.

[AuntLydia]

So, some people think its extremely judgemental to make negative comments about a sexual practice(s) they find disgusting and perverted. OK if that's the case stop calling people who prefer a loving sexual relationship where partners love and cherish one another equally 'Repressed'.
FWIW I think a lot of 'posturing' has gone on on this thread and tend to agree with Douglas.

[douglas9401]

Somebody'e got their tail up this morning.

I see the censors have been called to try and stem the tears of the feisty, assertive and confident.
Makes you think.

In closing, I can't believe all this stuff is still here.