In A Quandary.

[melv16]

My neighbours 16yr old son was in their garden shed this afternoon.  He had 2 mates with him and they were smoking weed.

Do I tell his mother?

Say nothing?

Have a word with him?

Have a word with his 18yr old brother.

My worry is I might get repercussions from him; (vandalised property,  car or threats to me and my partner.)

[bhg481]

You owe it to his mother to tell her.

[mallyh]

i agree with bhg ,i wish someone had told me about my son and it may have stopped him going on to stronger things x

[barry1010]

Definitely tell the mother.

[Maydup]

Myself, I would say nothing. They might just be experimenting and are probably safer in their own back garden. 
if it continues as a regular thing then reconsider.

[bookbinder]

I agree with Maydup. After all, it's really none of your business what other people do. Mother might, eventually, notice the smell of weed around the house and in the shed. If you're not affected by it, turn the other cheek.

[Countrylover]

Say nothing.  Same as Maydup.  His mother might know!  I have a friend who was quite happy to let her 4 kids smoke weed, as did her and hubby.  Those kids are now in their 30s. None of the family are addicts.  They dont smoke it regularly.  They are a lovely family.

[naomi24]

I would say nothing.  If you can smell it so can his family.

[Countrylover]

Unless it affects you in any way it is none of your business.  But the vandalised property carvthreatsvare your business.  I hope you have reported.

[ladybirder]

CL I don't think they have made threats of vandalism. Melv is just worried they might.

[andy-hughes]

I would stay out of it.

A lot of people resent 'interference', however well-intentioned it may be.

[andy-hughes]

Bhg - I don't think you 'owe' anything to a neighbour. 

Family, close friend, maybe, but I say not, neighbour? Never. 

[Redhelen72]

None of your business, stay out of it.

[DTCwordfan]

Capture his e-mail and from an anonymous throw-away e-mail send him this attachment - the message, 'you have been rumbled'

[Smowball]

Apart from the fact that I personally would have never caught them out as I have zero sense of smell, I would stay out of it. For all you know it may well be their first time trying it and they didn't even like it, and will never do it again. 

[Canary42]

I think staying out of it might be wise, but to a large xtent it depends on your existing relationship with the family. Could you for example just speak to the 16 year old in a tactful (not threatening) manner pointing out possible health consequences of waccy baccy.  Don't lecture him, just show your concern for his future which might just jolt him into reconsidering.

 

I don't think you should grass him up (pun unintended) - and if you speak to him include that fact.

[1ozzy]

So what is the big deal?

Pun intended🤣

 

[david small]

MYOB.

[1ozzy]

😁

[Ken4155]

It may well be that the mother knows he smokes weed and that she insists he only does so in the shed and not in his bedroom. The smell of weed is very pungent and will stick to one's clothes and hair for some time - especially when doing so in a confined space - so his mother will be well aware of his habit.

Stay out of it, Melv. Not your concern.