men and pornography

[liquidspace]

Am I wrong for not wanting my bf to view pornography? Its got so bad that I cant go to bed without him in case he does so behind my back and I worry when I am at work and he has a day off at home. p.s. I do not withhold sex from him in fact, he doesnt want it as much as me - yet he seems to prefer his right hand. He knows how strongly I feel about it but still does it.

[lady_p_gold]

Well I do see the point that you are feeling that he is sometimes opting for porn when you are available and therefore you feel rejected. That is understandable and perhaps needs some thought as maybe he is not being as considerate as he might be, but as for when you are not there I don't think you will ever stop it.

[PinkFizz]

Hiya.Im lucky in that my b/f on the odd occasion he wants to watch a porno film.he asks me to watch it with him.In fact he bought me some as a surprise once - bless!!

I think the underlying problem is as everybody has said -he seems just pure lazy in bed!! Which would wind any woman up!! Have you sat him down one eve,over a glass of wine and asked why he makes no effort in bed??(the raising one arm is hardly foreplay!!)Say how you would like things to be more fun,and that you would even like to watch a film/glance at a mag together?

[sophie_1003]

try turning him down when he does want it then when he gets annoyed tell him that thats how he makes you feel all the time and its wearing you down, sex every now and then isnt much to ask! Maybe thatll get him to get his act together!

[stephyker]

its not like he is cheating on you by looking at it. allow guys to do it, makes them happier. it doesn't mean anything bad.

[liquidspace]

Why does it make men happier? Does that mean they'd be miserable without masturbating? Once men have a need to do it, can they just not do it, or is the need so overwhelming that they simply have to?

[stephyker]

Look, its something he likes, what is so wrong with doing it? Why don't you try to spice it up so you can join in with him... never know, you might enjoy it. Its not just men who enjoy it. Don't take it as an insult to you.

[stephyker]

I wouldn't take the lack of effort. Talk to him, tell him you are not happy. Sounds selfish to me with the lack of effort. It won't get better if you let him have sex whenever he lifts up his arm! What a pig! If all else fails, get a vibrator yourself, and withhold sex. See how he likes it. No persons selfishness is worth your unhappiness. Sort him out! Good luck.

[liquidspace]

Trouble is, if I withheld sex, I wouldnt ever get any!! lol.
I am not against masturbation, obviously Ive done it myself, I would just rather he would show interest in ME. I just know that when he has a morning off, it is what he is going to do, yet when we have a romantic evening, or a drink together in the evening, sex doesnt usually follow.
He acts like he hasnt got a high sex drive yet always wants to watch naked women on tv, it just doesnt figure with me thats all.

[liquidspace]

thanks for your help fellas, good advice. :o)