cancer

[filthiestfis]

I've just found out my dad has liver cancer. I dont know how to react. Im in shock. I've never experienced cancer or even death in the family. My dad who is 65 just retired, he's never been inside a hospital and now this.
If anyone has any messages of support and advice I would appreciate them at this moment.

[Kleiber]

Oh, filthiestfis - i feel for you. I can only echo what the others have said. Keep positive, liver cancer isn't necessarily a terminal one - I knew a young lad who had it and had part of his liver taken out, but the liver can re-grow and that lad is now a young man and is doing fine. It sounds like your dad is a fit & otherwise healthy man, so there is always hope. Ask all the questions you need to of his doctors - they won't mind. Good luck. luv & hugs, Kxx
Cruella - I'm so sorry for you as well - my husband had it, too. We need to talk. K xx

[Kleiber]

I forgot to say, look up Cancer Bacup on the internet. They have a good website, which gives a lot of information and are very supportive. xx

[China Doll]

Filthy,

I can't promise to be able to help. I'm not clinical myself.

However...

I work in an area where I may be able to find out some information for you.

Do you have any specific questions?

Put them on here. I'll check in. See if there's not some I might be able to help with.

It's the best I can do. Sorry it's not much.

[Pippa68]

My thoughts are with you and your family, filthiestfis.

xxxx

[kyra16]

filthiestfis: so sorry to hear abt your dad. my ma was diagnosed 3 mos ago w br.cancer...it was a total shock to me also. i understand what ure goin thru. be strong, if you have extended family; nows the time to band together. this is when y'all need to come together. support one another because you're gonna need to be strong for your dad. keep your chin up.

[yinyang]

Hello filthiestfis. So sorry to hear about the news you have been given. Of course you are in shock just now. Just let yourself react the way you need to , there is no right or wrong way.

My dad was diagnosed with inoperable oesphegal cancer back in march. This happened just after my mum took early retiral so they could travel, a couple of weeks after his 60th birthday and the same week that my grandfather went into a hospice - I know there is never a good time for this to happen but....

When I first heard i went through terrible mood swings. I could be so angry I wanted to puch walls one day, the next crying all the time or else totally numb and barely able to move off the sofa. I also got so used to putting on a brave face for the kids that I did the same with my husband, That was a big mistake and nearly drove us apart. You need at least one person around you that knows exactly how you feel and you know you can say anything to without them judging you. Coming on here can help too because these people aren't emotionally involved but are stilll glad to offer support and advice; there is usually at least one person who has been through it themselves too.
The last few months have been pretty tough but I have to say my family has pulled together and become closer in a way I never imagined. We take turns at supporting each other but it's not a conscious thing' we just give our strength to whoever seems to need it. Yes, there are sad days but the good days are treasured and enjoyed and when my dad is gone I'm sure that 's what I'll remember and get my strength from.
Let us know how you are getting on. take care. x

[Slooow_Jo]

Sorry to hear your news xx

[filthiestfis]

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. At the mo I dont have any update on his condition :(

[4getmenot]

Whenever anyone hears that they have cancer or a member of their family or a friend does they go into shock and no one really thinks that Cancer is not a death sentence. I know this because my boyfriend had cancer and he�s perfectly healthy now. Please don�t look upon it as the bad things he�ll go through but that there is hope. My thoughts are with you. xx