I have heard it said that people who irk you for no obvious reasons but who *really* needle you are "mirrors" to parts of your personality that need to be looked at.
Putting it in other words (if that seemed gobbledygookish); people who get on your tit are telling you something about yourself that you need to deal with.
If you get on *their* tits too, then both parties have issues that need to be dealt with.
May be some truth in it, I don't know. All I can say is that in nearly 62 years I have only ever come across three people to whom I took an instant and visceral dislike at first sight, for reasons which no one else could understand.
there are peeps who I avoid as they're tooooooo big for their boots, imo. Mirrored, that would be me - but that's why I'm on here, to bang to rights - wrongs :)
People who get on my nerves probably are telling me that I should be more patient with them although they won't realise they are doing so. And that I should stop being so stubborn.
Hmm, interesting.
From my POV, I think it's more to do with my own feelings of personal inadequacy or failings in self confidence.
I admit that sometimes I 'bite' when I shouldn't with certain people (I mean generally, not just here) if often wonder sometimes when I 'lock antlers' with someone we are both suffering from these issues and inadvertantly pushing buttons.
It's probably just me, but anyone to whom I have not been previously introduced who addresses me by my first name causes the bile to rise in my gorge. A few years ago, when making a rather expensive purchase, the hapless young assistant, on taking my card and reading the name, said, "Won't be a minute, Michael". I demanded my card back, cancelled the purchase and went elsewhere. Probably my age, but that was considered the height of rudeness years ago.
..plus I concur - a bank clerk once referred to me by an ASSUMED shortening of my first name whilst taking issue with me about an overdraft. What's more, he sounded all of 16 years old, the cheeky little tosspiece. I shan't go near Lloyds ever again.