h/w or room tidy

[mollykins]

My parents have gone out and are syaing that tidying my room is more important than homework and that it has to be done first but I haven't got time to do both. Plus it's my friends birthday dinner tonight and if i don't have my room done then i can't go to her party.

I'm 17 and they're treating me like a 7 year old. I'm doing 4 hard a-levels and they just don't seem to care that i have soo much work to do, then it'll be them that has a go at me when I fail, because i haven't done enough work, and they'll make me pay for the resits and I don't get EMA, I don't get pocket money and I have too much work to do, to get a job.

What can I do, dad was V angry when he left.

[sophie_1003]

And then after that wait till you're working full time; even LESS time and more work to do!

[mollykins]

I've been told it's easier because it's only slightly more difficult than Alevels but you have all that extra lesson time and all the extra time at home.

[DTCwordfan]

if you are that far behind do one or two hours work and then go to the party....

[mollykins]

Plus i'll be an instructor at cadets while at uni, when you don't get pressured to attend as many weekend things (quite a few trips i've gone on, involve no or maybe one of the instructors from my unit).

[cazzz1975]

I would give up cadets if it were interfering with my schoolwork

[mollykins]

I'm not behind, I only started the nest topics of work after the exams I had last week, some I haven't started yet as I havent had the teachers yet due to having other exams when I should have had them. it's jsut that every teacher gives us about 3 hours homework a week (plus extra for revision when exams are coming up).

[mollykins]

cadets isnt interferring with schoolwork, it's only making it harder to get a job. The nights before exams i didn't go to cadets FYI. Plus it's something else to put on my personal statement for UCAS seeing as I spend wednesdays doing homework and not something else at school.

[sophie_1003]

I suppose it depends what course you do but mine is way more hard going than A-levels; you have to be very independent in the 'homework' as it isn't necessarily checked every week. Also; we were told we should be doing 3 hours of study for every hour we are in uni; in the first term that would be 14 hours in uni and therefore 42 hours self study (in addition to time spent on assignments). I think the course I'm doing is a bit more hard going because it used to be done in 4 years but don't get into a false sense of security over how difficult uni will be!

[horseshoes]

Molly, believe me, you are making this sound like it's the biggest deal in the world. How long has it taken you already to make all these postings? Quit whingeing, act like the 17 year old that you are and tidy your room for goodness sake. Just get on with it.

[micmak]

Are you for real molly. Maybe don't spend time on here, then you would have more time for every thing else.

[looobylooo]

ah.. but yeah but no but yeah but, we'd miss her postings if she werent on here so much ... lol ...
hope you enjoy the birthday dinner tonight molly, come back tomorrow and tell us all about it! :o)

[Whoever]

It's easy to feel to have a grudge against your parents for they insist of you having a tidy room but look at it another way. Later in life you will be expected to be organised and disciplined and they're only trying to prepare you for what to meet later. You certainly have to be more organised and tidy once you have a job. If you work in an office, many companies have a Clean Desk Policy, which insists that all paperwork has to be filed away at the end of the day for security reasons and so that cleaning staff have a clean sweep when dusting. Does that make sense? So how can either your mother or you dust when every single surface is cluttered with stuff? If you worked in any of the armed services, your belongings, right down to your toothbrush would have to be packed away to military precision.

It isn't really that difficult to be tidy once you get yourself into the habit. Just clear up as you go along. You're not the only person in the world who has other distractions. Being adult means you have to lean to "multi-task". In the real adult world, you'll have many things you want to do but can't because other tasks or commitments have to take priority. Just imagine if your Dad one day said "Stuff it. I'm not going to go to work today and earn any money to pay the bills because I'd rather go down to the pub and have a drink with my mates." You'd think that was a pretty irresponsible attitude, wouldn't you?

Your parents are probably treating you like a 7 year told because your behaviour resembles that of a child that age, rather than the near 18 year adult that you are. I'm sure that if you change your attitude, they'll be more reasonable in future.

[~Wingnut~]

God I wish this was Facebook cos I would so be clicking the 'Like' button on your post right now Whoever :o)

[Postdog]

can't be bothered reading all the posts but if you have time to get on here then surely you can use that time on one of the other things.

[Dris]

Ha !!! Well thats where some of you are wrong.My room/my kids rooms (yeuch/were a tip when we were all 17.I was working F/T as well *blush but my mother said when you get your own place you'll find out the hard way.She was right-I have since had a very tidy house -not bordering on fastidious and my 2 are quite tidy as well (well not to my now higher standards lol).
Have you all forgotten what it was like to be 17 and taking umbrage at yer parents.
Molly -just make sure you lash yer dirty stuff in the wash basket and give it a quick hoover -lash anything else under the bed or somewhere you can hide it -lifes too short to be battling your Mum and Dad cos they'll win.Enjoy your party and swot like mad tomorrow:)

[~Wingnut~]

Actually Dris my room as a 17year old was quite tidy, I was living away at college during the week and home at weekends. My room was messy when I was a lot younger.
I was living 200 miles from home at 18 on a middle year placement and kept my room and the house I was sharing very clean and tidy. I managed to do all that, work full time (as it was a middle year placement), study and do the written work for my middle year that was expected, Molly is only a year away from this yet can't keep her room tidy? and complains she doesnt have the time to do a part time job. Others have managed it yet she moans that she can't.

[Eve]

It would also seem to me that they are treating you like a child because you are acting like one.

You seem to think you are so hard done by!

I managed to combine A Levels, 2 part time jobs, a lot of voluntary work, being an RAF cadet, running the college climbing club and a lot more stuff.

I think if you are anticipating that your degree is going to only be a little easier than your A levels (especially if you want to get a decent grade), I think you might be in for a bit of a shock. Degree level study requires a lot of self discipline and time management and sound decision making (preferably without having to come onto a website to ask all the time).

I know people who have combined study with working full time, sometimes with evening or weekend jobs as well and raising a family.

My house isn't always pristine but then I work hard for a living, I work an average of 11-12 hours a day and am often in at the weekends and even when on holiday, I pay my rent, bills, buy all my own things, do all my own housework, make my own meals etc... If I am short on money as it's needed for important things I make sacrifices, if work needs my full attention it gets it, if I need an early night to be fresh to get in early I don't go out and party.

I earnt having my own space and being able to do my own thing and I'm definitely not moaning. You live in your parents' house off their money so I'd say it's pretty fair that their rules go.

You sound far from illtreated and when you can earn and support yourself you can live in your space by your rules.

You think life isn't fair now, wait until you get into the real world.

[tiggerblue10]

I remember when I was 17 and my room was always in a mess. I hated housework and still do. I wasn't studying apart from retakes in 6th form but I was always a messy kid and my mum was more concerned about me tidying my room than my homework. I have changed dramatically though before anyone thinks I'm some dirty cow! Lol

[sophie_1003]

To be fair my room is still a mess and I'm 23! But I haven't been asked to tidy it since I was about 15; it's my mess and I have to live in it. But if my parents asked me to tidy up I would do it no problem; it's their house after all!