Skreecheeboy, don't take the **** about setting yourself on fire, some people have genuinely felt so depressed they try it to kill themselves.
Also, you're just on the defensive cos you know you've done a horrible cruel thing and you should feel bad about it, and I'm GLAD you do, cos it shows that you're not all that evil. But you've still gone about it the wrong way, and you're not going to feel any better until you speak to her about it face to face. Next time, you won't take the easy cowards way out.