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Am I being unreasonable?
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My partner's daughter went abroad a few months ago to travel for approx 18 mnths with her boyfriend. I also have grown up children so I know how much he misses her and they have a very close relationship.
He has said he would like to go and meet up with her but as we have other holidays planned together this year and I work full time it would be difficult for us both to go.
Why do I feel so hurt by this? I have no problem with understanding his longing to see her, I can't understand my reaction, lots of people have 'separate' times.
He has said he would like to go and meet up with her but as we have other holidays planned together this year and I work full time it would be difficult for us both to go.
Why do I feel so hurt by this? I have no problem with understanding his longing to see her, I can't understand my reaction, lots of people have 'separate' times.
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You need to shift the focus a little;
How long is he going for ?
Try and arrange to do things purely for 'you' during this period. Are there friends whom you could visit (the ones that he pulls a face at when you mention them) ?
Rent a stack of DVD's - the ones he fidgets all the way through.
Invite your children over for supper more often............or go to them.
Go to the pictures on your own..........
Try and draw up a list of 'positive' things you can do..........and very soon you'll be itching for him to go away. :o)
And remember the old C&W song "How can I miss you when you won't go away ?" :o)
You need to shift the focus a little;
How long is he going for ?
Try and arrange to do things purely for 'you' during this period. Are there friends whom you could visit (the ones that he pulls a face at when you mention them) ?
Rent a stack of DVD's - the ones he fidgets all the way through.
Invite your children over for supper more often............or go to them.
Go to the pictures on your own..........
Try and draw up a list of 'positive' things you can do..........and very soon you'll be itching for him to go away. :o)
And remember the old C&W song "How can I miss you when you won't go away ?" :o)
Oh yes he will send photos online and call lots - it will be good for us if he goes in the long run - I'm wise enough to know I may need to spend some time with one of my children when they need me one day! I go from one opinion to another all the time in my head, we are all so different, some people wouldn't give it a second thought I suppose but no-one likes that 'left behind' feeling.