Was I Out Of Order?

[MyLove]

Ok so i have a sister who is constantly badgering me to do/sort stuff out for her. Recently her phone got cut off so her only communication has been via facebook. Whilst I was on a break at work she sent me a message that said "please contact my childminder, she hasnt given me £50 deposit and she is ignoring my messages" Me in a hurry just copy and pasted this message and sent it to the childminder ( I have her number on my phone) didnt think anything of it and hoped childminder would just pay up and that would be the end. The following day I recieve a message from sister "why the hell did you copy and paste my message to the childminder? This was a confidential message and now you have made me look bad, do you have something against me????"

Seriously folks, have I done something that bad?

[boxtops]

No, you haven't - you are not your sister's minder or servant. Perhaps this incident will put her off asking you again. Tell her what you've told us.

[Old_Geezer]

Probably wasn't the wisest way to handle her situation. It makes you look as if you couldn't really care about your sister's predicament. If you wanted to send a message to your sister that you are fed up with all the badgering, then goal achieved; otherwise say it wasn't obvious that wasn't what she wanted, and sorry but she needs to be clearer, especially when you haven't a lot of time to help.

[MyLove]

I was shocked when I got the message back from her, I asked her why she would even think that? I told her not to ask me to do anything for her again.

She has now told me not to speak to her!

[woofgang]

Well if she asks you do do things, she has to accept the way that you do them....
If she doesn't like the way you do them then maybe she should stop asking....

Be honest though...you don't have to answer on here but honestly.....was there a little teeny bit of devilment here?

[FrogNog]

No, you didn't get it wrong.
Your sister should have asked you to ask the childminder to get in touch with her and given a contact number or email address.

[MyLove]

Yes I am fed up with her constantly messaging me "can you do this, can you do that" drives me mad that she thinks Im her PA but I didnt send the message with the intention of making her look bad! Does anyone not think she has over reacted?

[Old_Geezer]

Oh dear. Well I suspect family squabbles will fade soon enough as long as you don't both keep picking at each other, and someone is big enough to ensure continued contact.

[BlackadderV]

I really can't see what the problem is. You were asked to contact someone and relay a message. You did that.

[MyLove]

No Woolfgang, I was too busy trying to visit loo, make a brew and order lunch all at the same time, I just did it quickly, the childminder did owe her £50 and my sisiter had contacted her on FB and she hadnt got back to her.

[woofgang]

over reacted?.....hmmmmm
received her just desserts?

have you ever before told her that you aren't her PA and to stop asking you to do so much stuff for her?

[Prudie]

Has she always relied on you to look after her problems?

[MyLove]

Her point is FrogNog that I didnt send the message from me, I just copied and pasted my sisters message which simply said "please contact the childminder, she owes me £50 and is ignoring my messages" my sister is only bothered that this message has made her look bad!

[MyLove]

Yes Prudie, she always has.

[MyLove]

I think she is awaiting me to say "sorry I should have sent the message from me so this way it didnt make you look bad"

[MyLove]

I persinally think she has over reacted.

[Cloverjo]

So I guess your sister wanted you to say in your message to the childminder "you owe my sister £50. Please can you give it to her. Through me is the only way she can get this message to you."

I don't think that's too much worse than copying and pasting her message, so no, you are not out of order. And anyway, couldn't she have used a phone or computer at work to call the childminder herself? Doesn't she see the childminder when she drops off or picks up her child?

[MyLove]

To me it seems she is upset that the message from her has made her look bad - how has it made her look bad? I can;t get my head around it to be honest.

[MyLove]

why would she think I have something against her?