Had my scan on Friday and im having a.....

[roomster]

....BOY!! Im so excited and have been out and bought a few outfits! Has anyone else recently found out the sex or planning to? If you have found out, i just wondered if you have chosen your nursery yet? I think im going to go for Babies R Us Safari friends, its def my favourite blue set around.

[redcrx]

good for you rev, for having the sense to realise it.

ps, youd have to catch the rockers first and moped against bikes really isnt gonna work :)

[natalie_1982]

Errrr..... nice image there Rev :-/

[Reverandfunk]

Liteweights the lot of em...

[Pippa68]

Oh yes..how many men (or women for that matter) have a child then decide it 'Isn't their thing'...and by then it is far too late!

No outfit today, Rev....lol

[Reverandfunk]

I am contstantly amazed by couples who fall out because one wants kids and the other doesn't.

Dont people talk about it first? lol

[Pippa68]

What's worse are the couples who fight about who doesn't get the kids!

[redcrx]

rev, it happens, believe me! and not because of lack of discussion, and its not the nicest experience to go through.

[Reverandfunk]

I have had numerous rows in pubs with people who have said "do you mind not swearing in front of my 2 year old"

[natalie_1982]

Rev, I always wonder that!

My friend has been married for 3 years to a guy who has two daughters (aged 12 and 15) and had the snip years ago. Now she is pining for a child - this is not a new idea, she has always wanted kids. I just can't figure it out. She said it just never came up in conversation before they were married and she assumed he would get a reversal. Makes me want to shake her!

[redcrx]

now thats silly of her natalie.

[Reverandfunk]

Lol I know what u mean Natalie.

I have had 2 relationships where the bird I mean lady had kids. In both cases I was more of a father than there biological fathers having said that their mothers were both mad.

Both spent no quality time with there kids whatsover and the result one was in crack houses at 14 and the other developed ADHD and was a regular bed wetter at 10. Shocking really but then you think why should I be playing the responsible parent.

Anyway moving on lol

[Pippa68]

It's the same with some women.

They go through a sterilisation, then decide they want it reversed either because they have met a new partner or simply change their mind.

My problem is that neither of us want another child yet Mr P still hasn't had the snip! I think I am gonna have to get some house bricks or pop along to the hospital myself.

[Reverandfunk]

Best thing I ever did

[Goodsoulette]

Rev, how can you not want kids but be happy to get involved with a woman who has them?

I dont introduce guys to my kids. My friends think its weird but it seems irresponsible to me to have a string of uncles in and out of their lives. Although saying that with my new hermit lifestyle I havent had a date in ages, sobs!

[Pippa68]

Oh dear, Rev.

My daughter is currently in the process of being diagnosed with ADHD.

It must have been all that dressing up as a nun & kilt lifting what done it ;o)

[Reverandfunk]

Because of the love I had for their mothers I was prepared to try.

In both cases i'd missed out on the early years (11 & 8) and I knew that if I wanted to be with their mum I had to be there for them. I am good with kids but inevitably it all gets thrown back in your face and the mothers took the pi** by abusing my good nature.

[Reverandfunk]

Soulette I have in the past *coughs* met "ladies" off the internet and have met their kids within an hour of meeting them. I agree with you about the uncle thing.

Pip good luck with the ADHD how old is she?

[Goodsoulette]

Thats a shame Rev. To me it would be a grand gesture from me to let a man be a part of our family and I would hope that he would cherish that. It's a daunting prospect though as a single mum and I don't understand why other single mums don't think these things through like me. Some women are diabolical arent they?

[Pippa68]

My youngest is 6, Rev. My oldest daughter has an ASD (Aspergers) so I think there is something genetic..my paternal grandmother was autistic..quite severely, I believe.

It's a long process which has already been going on for 2 years so you might understand why I need a little light relief ;o)

Oh yes Goodie..totally agree about the uncle thing. I had a few when I was a child. Mr Pippa met my two oldest after I had been seeing him for almost a year ~ and I was damned sure he was for keeps!

[Goodsoulette]

Noooooo way. Lol, I dated a guy for the best part of this year and he never met my kids. HE asked about it but it just didnt feel right, he played a few games and I wasnt gonna have that happen with the boys.