What age does CSA stop?

[Trixey1970]

My daughter is still in further education however I have just been informed by CSA that as she has just turned 19 my payment will stop. Does anyone know if this is correct as I have been giving incorrect advise from the CSA on a few occasions previously and am not sure if this is correct?

Many thanks in adavance. Lisa

[Beanmistriss]

It's up to 19 in full time education. Full time education counts as anything up to A level level if that makes sense. So I think they're right and yuor payments will stop.

[zzxxee]

yes it will stop at 19 so if any back payments are needed get them sorted out asap

[Trixey1970]

Thanks for the responses...not what I wanted to hear as I now have the struggle to keep my daughter for over a year and a half on a low income...: -(

[dot.hawkes]

it stops on the 19th birthday and if they are 19 in the first month of a college course it still stops and for the rest of the college year the CSA reckon it's tough and the student can attend college with no financial support form the absent parent. and so it's not til the end of full time education , that is what happened to my youngest son he was 19 in the september after just starting his 3rd year at college

[Trixey1970]

Well my ex husband has booked himeslf a holiday to celebrate not having to pay for her anymore! He gets to have 1 more holiday a year on top of the 2 he usually has... lucky eh!?! I get to have the usual none - the same as the last 5 years and now face struggling more than I usually do... not fare.. :-(

[bednobs]

can your daughter not get a job part time to help pay for herself?

[terambulan]

Send her out to earn her own income - I did at 15!

[Beanmistriss]

The CSA suck, they'd never cope with making diffirent rules for diffirent situations. As hard as it is for you it kinda makes sense, loads of kids go away to college or uni so it would be mighty unfair for people to keep paying when the kid wasn't living with the parent getting the money. As per the last two posts I don't think it would be unreasonable to expect your daughter to go out and work and pay you some digs, buy her own clothes etc. If she does already - good for her.

[Cheekyteddy]

It does not sound like your ex has a better nature or you could appeal to it on the grounds of reasonable support for your daughter.

My husband and I still financially support my son (who is not my husbands child) and he is 22 with children of his own - he just has a very low income.

Sorry I cannot be of any help but I do sympathise.

Cheeky

[Trixey1970]

My daughter does have a part time job to help pay for herself but it's the cost of living I'm struggling with... I'm on a low income and struggling to keep up with the hike in the utility bills... Probably going to need to take on a 2nd job to keep going.. :-( I've asked my ex husband for help and he's already said no..

[bednobs]

well, even though it sounds unreasonable to you, i suppose its pretty reasonable (from the outside) not to expect your ex husband to maintain you or his adult children - thats what getting a divorce is about i would guess that your daughter will be finishing college this acedemic yar, which wont be very long at all, and then hopefully the situation will improve for you :)

[Trixey1970]

Actually no... she has another year to go after this year.. And just for the record... I wouldn't want any money of my ex husband for me... I keep myself.. but when he takes his girlfriend on hols and not his kids and I can't afford to take them myself then it does hurt! That's divorce though eh... he left for a better life without the commitment and got it didn't he!?!

[bednobs]

seriously though, she is an adult now, and probably past going on holiday with her parents. if she wants holidays, she could save up and pay for them herelf, so please don't feel guilty.

i think you feel frustrated at your financial situation, and i can understand that, it's just that it's not your exes fault he earns enough to go on holiday and you don't.
Does the daughter have any contact with her dad? perhaps she can ask him for some mney for a holiday, just as she would have to if he were still living with you

[Trixey1970]

He hasn't taken her on holiday for the last 5 years so is not likely to volunteer to help out now.. What I getangry at is that his parents helped him whilst he was at college yet he wants her to give up college and work to keep herself ... bit unfair... I want my children to have the best education that they can have... its a hard world out there trying to find work without looking without qualificatiions..

[CrazyCathy]

I put myself through college as neither of my parents helped - had to do 2 jobs too as well as study and pay rent.

It was tough and I sometimes thought I'd give up but now I'm glad I didn't.

[MORELLO]

Don't say 'Life as a man huh' (!) - we're not all lousy...

[MORELLO]

..or even of a...

[Beanmistriss]

Goodbye thats really unfair on blokes. There are a lot od ****@ mothers out there who refuse to pay money when they are the absent one. It really does get on my wick when people split up from their partner and the ex can never do right. From experience, in most cases if the absent father had the choice to have custody of his child he would much rather that than his yearly holiday. It is not the absent parents responsibility to provide for the parent with custody for as long as the child wants to live with them. What if they stay at college till they're in their 30's?!

[cazzz1975]

I agree with bednobs, your daughter is an adult and lots of people at uni do work also, you have to stop feeling bitter about your ex and move on, in fairness he has paid his CSA so what more can you expect? he is getting on with his life and you have to too