Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[ummmm]

it's not spank. It;s hitting!!

[tamborine]

Tescher wouldnt take a boisterous 5y child with others, to train stn alone. I wouldnt give that responsibility to another.

[spathiphyllum]

I'm using the term spank to differentiate between an open handed pat on the bottom and a punch / hit / smack.

[spathiphyllum]

"Tescher wouldnt take a boisterous 5y child with others, to train stn alone. I wouldnt give that responsibility to another."

And if you did best believe there would be other staff around to assist

[tamborine]

Middle child syndrome was my son who burnt a hay barn, threw boulders at my elder son & nearly drowned youngest sister by pushing her in sheep dip...but he is the family joker & comic and loveable rogue

[spathiphyllum]

That's basically me Tambo :)

I wasn't the best behaved kid, and it certainly wasn't me parents fault! They were amazing, and dealt with me and showed me love regardless. But times did arise where i needed to be reminded actions have consequences.

[spathiphyllum]

So flip side now... Kind of a separate question (feel free for previous discussion to still occur regarding the actual OP)

does anyone resent their parents for spanking them as a child?

[hc4361]

Teachers do take children to potentially dangerous places - even the classroom can be hazardous. One adult to twenty children is not unusual on school trips to zoos and so on. Any teacher that smacked, slapped or pinched a child in any situation would be sacked.
Instead they are trained to use restraint to keep a child safe- in immediate danger they are allowed to use as much force as is reasonable to keep a child safe, that would include firmly grasping and pulling a child to safety. If a child is having a melt down and is very like to harm himself (or herself) or others then close restraint can be used.

[hc4361]

spath, I wasn't smacked as a child but I lost all respect for my much older sister when I saw her smack her toddler who was having a tantrum.

[tamborine]

Are you a middle child spath - theyre the ones that always feel hard done by, dont share nor take responsibility.

[nailit]

//Yes. Why else would you spank a child unless it is to get them to behave and to do as you say?//

Would you spank/hit an adult to get them to do as you say Spath?

I was hit, spanked, caned, rulered on the knuckles and slippered as a child. I grew up with resentments, mental issues and addictions
And most of the people I come across that say ''It never did me any harm'' Have been mostly bullies themselves.

[spathiphyllum]

No I am a youngest child

HC, smacking for a tantrum may be justified, but it seems a weak reason, so i understand your loss of respect. But i will say, it depends how extreme the tantrum was, and where it happened

[spathiphyllum]

"Would you spank/hit an adult to get them to do as you say Spath? "

No, because adults can do what they want, and are responsible for themselves. They already know and have learned that actions have consequence, and i don't wish to control any other adult apart from myself. I've said, unless it's a parent (or in tambos potential situation,a teacher closely looking after a child)

[tamborine]

I didnt like being hit on head with ruler edge by maths teacher - coz I was dim

[spathiphyllum]

Then it's wrong


Sorry i pressed answer before i typed that at the end

[spathiphyllum]

Well that is abuse because not only did they go for the head, but a weapon was used. Also, knocking out braincells isn't going to get you to wise up now is it.. Malicious. ;oP

[nailit]

//No, because adults can do what they want, and are responsible for themselves. They already know and have learned that actions have consequence, and i don't wish to control any other adult apart from myself//

Fair enough. But I just cant understand the justification for inflicting pain and humiliation on a child.

[tamborine]

dad belted me for kissing a yummy bf at 14 - bf was so worth it ;)

[spathiphyllum]

it's not pain or humiliation if it's done properly. As i stated on page one, if you spank a child to inflict pain, that's warped in the head. If you spank a child to humiliate them, then that's just as bad.

But sometimes spanking is a knee jerk reaction in a heated or dangerous situation where you need to put an end to it, and let the child know a few things in a short space of time.

[nailit]

LOL @ Tambo ^^