Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[spathiphyllum]

Maybe other peoples children were much more evolved and on track than I was.. I questioned everything, ask'd why to everything. My mum says to do something? I say why should I? Who gives you the right to tell me what to do? I was one of those..

[nailit]

//it's not pain or humiliation if it's done properly//
Of course its pain and humiliation...what else could a child experience if someone is spanking him/her.

[spathiphyllum]

To get a child to behave

[spathiphyllum]

why would you hit a child just to cause them pain and humiliation? That's twisted. As i said, the spank is the action, the reason behind the action is what needs to be examined

[nailit]

//why would you hit a child just to cause them pain and humiliation?//

I didn't ask or say that.
I asked what else a child could experience?

[tamborine]

yummy was scared off by dad & never kissed me again....sniff sniff

[spathiphyllum]

A valuable lesson

[nailit]

So a child that's been assaulted is thinking ''Wow, what a valuable lesson I'm experiencing''?

[spathiphyllum]

the idea that actions have consequences ,the idea the child isn't an invincible wrecking ball able to get what they want and when, the idea that they need to follow orders from their parents else the day may not go as expected.

[spathiphyllum]

Nailit, if a child stole from a shop and you spanked it, then it went and did it again then you can be pretty certain the child insane or rather quite some trouble, one to watch carefully.

[gness]

If you need to spank a child to get it to behave, Spath you are shutting the stable door. Bring them up properly and you don't need to resort to violence.....
As I said I'm ashamed of once smacking my son...and yes, I do resent my parents for not being able to bring up their children without hitting them......x

[pixie374]

The consequences of any action should never be violence. Wouldn't it make more sense to teach them the actual consequences?

[spathiphyllum]

"So a child that's been assaulted is thinking ''Wow, what a valuable lesson I'm experiencing''?"

I mean you really would hope wouldn't you or the whole act is pointless. I know that i learned my lessons as a kid, glad i did also there are some raving hooligans out on the streets just ask retro what london is like he'll tell you there is blood on the walls. That could have been me if i didn't get a spanked bottom.

[spathiphyllum]

"The consequences of any action should never be violence. "

Urmm...

https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2019/mar/16/australian-senator-fraser-anning-punches-teen-after-being-egged

[spathiphyllum]

16 year old being smacked (worse than a spank) people seemed able to justify that one.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, you're heading into your 'what if' scenarios again, rather than giving (or even attempting to give) any answer to sensible points made by others.

[pixie374]

Are you saying that is an acceptable reaction? I said "shouldn't be"... Why would you want to teach it more?

[nailit]

//Nailit, if a child stole from a shop and you spanked it, then it went and did it again then you can be pretty certain the child insane//
EH?
Or maybe the child has emotional/psychiatric problems that need addressing with LOVE. Not beatings!

[Rockrose]

My mother always claimed she slapped me but she left marks and taught me it was better not to get caught, so I just became more devout.
By the way her slapping was more of a beating

[Mamyalynne]

//if a child stole from a shop and you spanked it, then it went and did it again then you can be pretty certain the child insane or rather quite some trouble, one to watch carefully.//

If you cannot think of any other possible causes then you need to do some ground work or have a few children - then come back and we'll try an adult conversation on the topic.