Racism

[flip_flop]

I was accused of racism at a BBQ on Saturday because I said I don't find black women attractive.

I don't consider this to be even remotely racist, just personal preference.

Opinions?

[Whickerman]

a generalisation maybe, but not racist.

Personally, I wouldn't particularly find south asian women attractive, but I can still interact with them on a daily basis, and I don't think my attitude as to whether I'd sleep with them or not remotely affects my relationship with them. Like saying 'I wouldn't sleep with a man' being a sexist remark.

[eleanswers]

Oddly enough: I don't, and I have said that "I don't find white men attractive". I'm white so does that make me a racist? I don't think so.
My boyfriend too says he doesn't find the female of his race attractive so the same there.
It's not a racist comment you made, just expressing an oppinion on personal preference.

[Loosehead]

Where was the BBQ, numpties are us? There are a lot of people out there who do not know what racism is, they just think that not liking something is tantamount to racism. Expressing a preference is not racist unless it is accompanised by the qualifcation that the preference is expressed because of the charancteristics or because of some perceived difficiency. It may be a generalisation but as a rule I do not find Black women attractive either. That does not mean I think any less of them as people.

[flip_flop]

I can't say I was particularly bothered because the girl in question is quite well known for getting offended about things that have got naff all to do with her.

I'm sure you all know the type.

[Whickerman]

then it is your right - nay, your duty - to wind her up at every conceivable opportunity.

[unruliejulie]

Not in the slightest bit racist flip flop, whatever next??? we cant say a bloody thing these days. I dont find men with ginger hair attractive or men with hairy backs but all that is is a matter of my personal taste! Of which i am, or did think i was entitled to. I dont find black men attractive either just for the record in the same way that probably a lot of black women dont find white men attractive. utter nonsense to try and turn that into a another racial issue!

[Loosehead]

How very carrottoppist of you julie!

[B00]

And hairist too I might add Julie, you should be ashamed of yourself!

[unruliejulie]

lol. please can you ever forgive me for my admissions??

[redhead23]

hi that is riddiculous
its like me saying i dont find men with blond hair attractive , its just your personal choice !!!
what is this world comming to , people jump on the " your being racist " bandwagon far too much , the world has gone to hell

just ignore it if u stated a rude word n then yes that is a racist term , but you did NOT !X

[mibn2cweus]

I do consider excluding a race, creed, culture, etc. from your list of candidates for what you will allow yourself to find attractive a form of racism that is entirely permissible albeit not rationally justifiable. On the same hand, why you find the need to pronounce your narrow minded selection process especially in conjunction with demonstrating your insensitivity towards the feelings of others by stating such preferences in such a setting is itself questionable.

I'm not suggesting that I am "holier than thou" and regrettably admit that I have done the same myself on numerous occasions but there's hopefully always room for growth. Your thought provoking question deserves careful consideration. I hope you do not find the results of mine entirely objectionable.

[Oneeyedvic]

I thought it was just me - Naomi Campbell - Yes I would kick her out of bed - she does absolutely nothing for me!


p.s. - no not racist

[Loosehead]

with you on that one vic, she does nowt for me either!

[reachesme]

If you want them dead or hurt because of thier colour, your a racist, if you would descriminate them because of thier colour, your racist, if you don't want to screw them, but wish them no harm, your not. Poke the silly cow in the eye next time she comes out with such twaddle.

[reachesme]

Never heard of the word, looked it up, it don't apply to me, but a good word all the same.

[SarCaustic]

No it's not racism per se, but if you believe that you don't find women of a certain race attractive, you might form a mental block against finding them attractive. I'm no psychologist so I hope that makes sense.

With that in mind, would you say that you haven't found the black women that you have come across attractive or do you generally not find black women attractive? What do I know? could just be a semantic difference

[robbo82]

If I didn't like women who played the piano, would that make me a pianist?

[SilentSnow]

I think that not liking something about someone, whatever that may be, based entirely on their race is racist.

You should ask yourself if you would have been comfortable saying that if a black person had been present, i assume there wasn't, and if you wouldn't have.....