Are You Scared Of Dying?

[nailit]

My mum who has terminal cancer, had mapped her funeral arrangements out long ago and it required a religious ceremony. Prayers, Hymns etc. But after been allowed to attend the cremation of my brother in law...as one of the 10 people allowed at the start of lockdown...she has since changed her mind. My BIL had a humanist funeral and my mother found it beautiful, simple and to the point. She has since changed her request from a religious ceremony to a humanist one.
No religious claptrap spouted by a priest/vicar etc about living again in some etheral realm.
Just a simple accaptance that all things must die.
She seems more at peace with that, than this idea that we will live again after death.

Its unavoidable that we all must die, faith or no faith!
Ironically, as a young christian, I was terrified of dying.
As an atheist, Im not.
It seems to me that its the terminal religious that are most afraid.
To me death is nothing more than a return to the state of being before conception...nothingness!

Still try to make the most out of existance, but nothingness is not to be afraid of.
Like been in Non-REM sleep. Nothingness.

[Mamyalynne]

No, I am not afraid.

I'm very happy that your Mum has found peace making her plans, my Husband made his own plans and then we lived for what time we had left. x

[Bobbisox1]

I've just recently been to a humanist funeral and I have to say it was much lighter with takes of the person who'd passed away bring a smile to the 15 people in the Crematorium , I never think of dying , I think of living again when this is all over, am I scared? I suppose I am a bit

[nailit]

To paraphrase Mark Twain
I was dead for billions of years before my existance and will be dead for billions of years after with no after affects//

Ims sure someone will quote the exact saying...cant be arrissed to look it up myself!!

[woofgang]

I believe in god and am pretty much not scared to die...but not because of my belief.

[ummmm]

I'm an atheist and I'm scared of dying. There has been so much death in my life that I've seen the destruction it causes.

I think I could handle the thought better if I were older.

The thought of never seeing my kids again scares me.

[pixie374]

Nailit, Mark Twain seems to have quoted me from another thread lol. I'm glad your mum is happy with her arrangements. I can't say I particularly want to die yet usually, but the idea of an afterlife, is more scary in a way.

[Mamyalynne]

“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”

― Mark Twain

[rockyracoon]

I feel similar to Ummm. It’s not the dying, it’s what’s left behind that fills me with dread. The thought of not being with my daughter when she gets married, watching my son with his first child. The thought of missing that sort of emotional stuff is what really scares me. I know I’d be dead and wouldn’t know......... who knows

[Peter Pedant]

Dying doesnt sound much fun
being dead doesnt worry me

[ummmm]

But you'll know on your death bed what you're going to miss.

[ladybirder]

That's the way it should be though Rocky, it's the correct order of things.

[Cloverjo]

Nailit//To me death is nothing more than a return to the state of being before conception...nothingness!
Still try to make the most out of existance, but nothingness is not to be afraid of.
Like been in Non-REM sleep. Nothingness.//
I agree.
I’m not scared of being dead. I just don’t want to be there when it happens. Who was it that said that? No really, I’d rather not languish in a care home in Weston Super Mare for years.

[Ken4155]

I fear a long, lingering, painful death rather than death itself. Occasionally i do think of how my children will cope with my death when it comes. Then i think of how i have coped with the deaths of both my parents and pragmatism takes over and i know they will be just fine, given time.

[Cloverjo]

Woody Allen

[anneasquith]

Maybe not ummmm. Depends what state state of mind you are in.

[nailit]

/what we leave behind is worrying// I get that.
But the thought of our personal demise? Our non-existance?

[rockyracoon]

“ That's the way it should be though Rocky, it's the correct order of things.”

Agreed. As long as I’m about 90 :0)

[andy-hughes]

The older I get, the more I ponder my mortality.

I think of death as something that i can't avoid - hopefully I will be old enough and tired enough that it will be a relief.

I discuss it sometimes with my youngest daughter, she and I are very close, and I worry how much it will hurt her, even though she fully accepts that it will happen, and she will deal with it.

I just feel sad for the people i will leave behind - I have had a fabulous life, and I plan to enjoy some more of it first!!

[nailit]

//But you'll know on your death bed what you're going to miss//
How do you you know that Ummm?
Ive been at a few death beds including my fathers.

[ladybirder]

LOL Rocky. But I don't really think anyone would want their child to go before them unless their names were Fred and Rose.