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Are You Scared Of Dying?

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nailit | 17:17 Mon 28th Sep 2020 | Religion & Spirituality
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My mum who has terminal cancer, had mapped her funeral arrangements out long ago and it required a religious ceremony. Prayers, Hymns etc. But after been allowed to attend the cremation of my brother in law...as one of the 10 people allowed at the start of lockdown...she has since changed her mind. My BIL had a humanist funeral and my mother found it beautiful, simple and to the point. She has since changed her request from a religious ceremony to a humanist one.
No religious claptrap spouted by a priest/vicar etc about living again in some etheral realm.
Just a simple accaptance that all things must die.
She seems more at peace with that, than this idea that we will live again after death.

Its unavoidable that we all must die, faith or no faith!
Ironically, as a young christian, I was terrified of dying.
As an atheist, Im not.
It seems to me that its the terminal religious that are most afraid.
To me death is nothing more than a return to the state of being before conception...nothingness!

Still try to make the most out of existance, but nothingness is not to be afraid of.
Like been in Non-REM sleep. Nothingness.
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Cliverjo - // Woody Allen //

Would that be "I don't want to achieve immortality through my work, I want to achieve it by not dying ..." by any chance?
Not scared of dying, just how it might occur.

I see myself in a heroic self sacrificing instant death, rather than some long drawn out agony like something from the opening scene of Casualty.

And I wouldn’t want to be surrounded by family and friends, just thousands of my adoring fans.

I don’t care about ‘arrangements’ as my fans would see to a great memorial. And probably a celebratory day named after me for future generations to wish they’d been alive at the time and mention me as their top guest at their fantasy dinner parties of the future.

As a very modest person it pains me to say it, but you’ll miss me when I’m gone.
Mamya - // “I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”

― Mark Twain //

I find that quote a bit skewed -

Obviously before you (that's the generic 'you') were here, no-one, including you, knows anything about you.

But after a lifetime, you have made some impact on the world you have lived in.

You may, as Mr Twain has, leave a body of work that means you are remembered long after your death, but at the very least, you will have impacted on the lives of family if you have one, and friends and acquaintances, so there is a gap when you go that was not present before you got here, because you have filled a space in the scheme of things that didn't exist before you did.
No everyone dies slowly.

My dad had a moment of clarity before he died.
Cliverjo - // Andy
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2989-i-m-not-afraid-of-death-i-just-don-t-want-to //

Indeed - there are loads of quotes because, as Mr Allen points out in Annie Hall, he is obsessed with death.
Trevor - // As a very modest person it pains me to say it, but you’ll miss me when I’m gone. //

I'm missing you already and you haven't even gone yet!!!

Excuse me, I'm a little emotional ...

(sound of gentle sobbing, and a door softly closing).
Who said that death is lifes greatest adventure?
Your own birth is the most dangerous journey you will have .
anne - // Your own birth is the most dangerous journey you will have . //

You've obviously never been on The Grand National at Blackpool Pleasure Beach!!!
Ummm... that is very common. Often the last signs when someone is dying, is a sudden burst of energy and clarity.
More than anything, what covid has confirmed to me, is that we should ensure people have the best quality of life possible, but also, the best quality of death.
Dave 18:54. Peter Pan.
'No religious claptrap spouted by a priest/vicar etc about living again in some etheral realm'. How dare you nailit ?? Both my beloved parents had a religious funeral because it is what they wanted and both were beautiful and moving in their own way, especially Dad's where the lovely female vicar had his immediate family walk up to his coffin, touch it and say goodbye to him. It was extremely moving and I am glad we did it. I am not religious, but my parents were and I am GLAD they had the funerals they wanted and I would not have had it any other way. Plus I know I will see them again one day and I am firm in that belief. You may get a shock when you die nailit.

I am scared of dying because I don't know how it will be, will it be painful, will it be long and drawn out or will I die in an old folks home ? However passing itself does not scare me because I know Mum and Dad will be there waiting for me, and I don't have to justify that to anyone.
pixie374 if by “...the best quality of death.” You mean headline news bulletin, wailing fans and a few days of national mourning declared, then yes, that’s generally what I would expect.

burleyshirley, whatever gives you comfort in life and death leaves you noting to fear. They’ll be there waiting with the best of them.
Not at all, trevor. I was thinking more about assisted suicide/ euthanasia. If you know someone will die in the next day or so, why leave them panicking, in pain or gasping for breath? It may not be relevant for this thread... but it does seem to confirm it.
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//No religious claptrap spouted by a priest/vicar etc about living again in some etheral realm'. How dare you nailit ??//

Quiet easily as it happens,
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//Plus I know I will see them again one day and I am firm in that belief. You may get a shock when you die nailit.//
Ah, that loving christian spirit, dont you just love it?
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Dont you just love that smell off burning sulpher in the morning???
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BURLEY, you dont know anything of the sort...wishful thinking!
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//You may get a shock when you die nailit.//
lol, yeah. I may find out that im dead.

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