He’s Broken Her Heart.

[chrissa1]

My beautiful daughter who has two year old twins has just found out that her husband of 6 years has been cheating on her with another woman. She has kicked him out of their home and is heartbroken.

The girls are missing their Daddy and I can’t believe that he has done this to her and his beautiful little girls.

I’m so angry and sad.

[anneasquith]

Pixie, do you think ‘ I’m on the other womens side’ ?

[pat2604]

And it's a good post Mamya. Be there to listen to both of them if necessary but don't take sides, or criticise the husband. I can say what I like about by husband but woebetide if others criticise or agree with me!!

[Peter Pedant]

// Sqad - // I agree with AH. //
Actually, you don't - because I have not offered a view.

sqad in the interests of harmony - change that to "I agree with someone"

[Sqad]

PP... I will do anything for you...... "I agree with someone"

[pixie374]

No Anne. Just think she is irrelevant here.

[andy-hughes]

Atheist - // Andy 16:08. Can you point out any precise statement in my earlier post which was not true (in terms of what I knew from the OP), or which criticised the woman who was cheated on? //

Certainly - You post said -

// chrissa1. Your daughter has kicked him out of the home. She has split the family because she is upset that he has had a relationship with another woman. //

Your statement is that Chrissa's daughter has 'split the family because she is upset that he has had a relationship with another woman.'

That's an assumption on your part that Chrissa's daughter is the cause of the split, when in fact she is reacting to her husband's behaviour. She has not 'split the family' by her actions, he has, by his, but you want her to take the responsibility.

//The home split has come about because your daughter does not forgive her husband for what he did. //

Another assumption based on your own perception, not the facts given. No mention has been made of 'forgiveness', only that he has betrayed her and she has unsurprisingly made him leave the home, but again, in your eyes, that is her action, based on your unfounded assumption.

// I don't know all the circumstances, so I can't have a sensible opinion. //

That contradicts your willingness to blithely blame the woman, not the man for his behavour which has caused this situation, and no, you can't have a sensible opinion, that's the first piece of your post that is actually accurate.

// Do you think that she was right not to forgive him, and to split the family like this? //

Forgiveness is probably not an option at this stage, but once again you lay the responsibility for the family split on her, not on him.

// How long was he cheating? Was it a one-night stand, or a six-year affair? //

I suggest that you have no idea if this is relevant or not. A lot of people don;t base their reaction to infidelity on a sliding scale of timelines - the longer it is, the worse it is -0six years, pretty bad, one night, he gets a swerve.

But that is your view, which you are placing on her, with no evidence or justification whatsoever.

So yes, you are blaming the victim.

It is his behaviour which has caused the split, not hers, she is the victim, not him, and the rest of your questions appear to be based on your perception that she is at fault.

That is victim blaming.

You're welcome.