Advice please...... :-)

[jammiedodger]

Hello all, I need advice to kind of get one over on someone with words.... im not too good with arguements etc and what to say!

Story is....... about this time last year I was single and fed up so decided to get in touch with my ex, not knowing he had a new gf. I kind of over reacted as he didnt wanna know and kept emailing him and dumped the stuff he had bought me outside his house. His gf got involved and started texting me etc.

I have a new boyfirend and haven't contacted him since then until a few weeks ago where I sent him a msg on a website saying 'hi how r u?' and then again after I saw him driving, none of which he replied to.

Thing is his gf has started sending me msgs like 'leave us alone' etc and 'stop pestering us' also ont he website. Personally, 2 msgs to me doesnt constitute pestering, just asking how someone is, no innuendos, no nothing!

I dont care about my ex anymore but get annoyed when his gf thinks she can send me these msgs. I am happy with my new bloke, very happy infact, but stuff like this just gets me all wound up!

I want to show her I dont care about them so does anyone have any ideas on what I cud write or how to handle the situation???

P.S. Please dont just tell me to leave it and not reply to the msgs, I want to annoy her, the vile B****!!!

[BUNNY]

You've so many replies I havent read them all, but my advice is to sit back and wait for your time-revenge is a dish best served cold after all. My ex husband left me for another woman. I did nothing but just ast back and eventually he left her for another woman-the very best revenge and I didnt even have to do anything. An ex of mine has a girlfriend who hates me- she will seriously cross the street to avoid me cause he and I were still close when she met him and she was v jealous. I have never spoken a word to her or about her, but 2 years down the line and in the past 2 months my ex has been phoning, texting and calling around all the time. Hes going on about how he misses me,how good we were etc. She knows nothing of this ,nor would I ever say anything,but that I know hes doing it gives me an upper hand and that feels great.

[annie0000]

Ruby - you owe me �4.76 - only problem is that because the jiffy bag was wet and sticky when I put it in the freezer, it now has a packet of birds eye fish fingers welded to the side. I am trying to chisel them off at the moment, but I have just managed to chop off my left thumb with my best carving knife. I think that your parcel might be a bit late as I have an impromptu trip to casulty now. Don't know how I am going to change gear with a gammy left paw.

See......no good comes of extracting revenge!!!!!

btw do you thing the fish fingers will still be edible - I don't think I will have time to go to the supermarket and the kids will need their tea in case we have a long wait at the hospital.

This will probably be moved to the Food category now.

[joko]

jammie, i am glad you have sent that message.

because given what you have said, this girl has done nothing wrong - except get sick of someone who has emailed, phoned, texted and turned up at her house completely unwelcome, and as you said ''over reacted'' and then after a break, looks like they may be starting it all up again - if it was me, then i am afraid you would have got a lot more than two simple text messages requesting to be left alone!! you got off lightly.

you are interfering and intruding on their life and you are not welcome - that is blatantly clear.

i realise your feathers are ruffled, but think about hers? how would you like a girl to do what you did to you and your new bloke?

if you had not previously done all the phoning and texting and emailing and turning up on their doorstep in a strop - then a ''simple text asking how he is'' would indeed have been acceptable and probably got a polite reply, and would not have caused any issue, but given the history here, i cannot blame her for not wanting it to all begin again.

so well done for doing the right thing.

[oh-sherbert!]

the term bunny boiler comes to mind.....