Advice please...... :-)

[jammiedodger]

Hello all, I need advice to kind of get one over on someone with words.... im not too good with arguements etc and what to say!

Story is....... about this time last year I was single and fed up so decided to get in touch with my ex, not knowing he had a new gf. I kind of over reacted as he didnt wanna know and kept emailing him and dumped the stuff he had bought me outside his house. His gf got involved and started texting me etc.

I have a new boyfirend and haven't contacted him since then until a few weeks ago where I sent him a msg on a website saying 'hi how r u?' and then again after I saw him driving, none of which he replied to.

Thing is his gf has started sending me msgs like 'leave us alone' etc and 'stop pestering us' also ont he website. Personally, 2 msgs to me doesnt constitute pestering, just asking how someone is, no innuendos, no nothing!

I dont care about my ex anymore but get annoyed when his gf thinks she can send me these msgs. I am happy with my new bloke, very happy infact, but stuff like this just gets me all wound up!

I want to show her I dont care about them so does anyone have any ideas on what I cud write or how to handle the situation???

P.S. Please dont just tell me to leave it and not reply to the msgs, I want to annoy her, the vile B****!!!

[feist]

As for freindship, pffffft, get a move on and find new friends for god's sake. Or come online to chat with us, great friends all around.lol

[Octavius]

But Ruby that is just life and you have to grow up and learn to deal with these things, not take it out on someone as though you were still in the playground. If an ex girlfriend started sending me texts and emails and dumping things on my doorstep a year after we had broken up, then I�m sorry but I would be convinced she had issues and was in need of some serious help.

[feist]

Last 2 posts were directed at Ruby....

[Rubyrose]

Laurence - if you read what I said again.. I said 'While I don't think it's a good idea I'd want to send something like etc etc'... I never said 'Send this'!

Champs - I'm not seething from the Married man thread at all... far from it... That doesn't bother me.. didn't bother me at the time reallY I am seething coz people on this site have got so self righteous and I can't seem to post anywhere without Leg-end or Feist following me around like lost puppies and trying to abuse me every chance they get! The sad thing is... you just know they are sad losers who sit masturbabting at the PC screen!

[teag1rl]

Champagne is truly the voice of reason here.

[feist]

Lol, Ruby, I think you described yourself there, spending alomost 12hrs a day on AB posting about your sad life all day long.... and I'm not following you, I found this thread somewhat interesting.... unlike yours!

Get a lie Ruby, its for your own good.

[feist]

Life**

[tiny e.a]

Okay, I admit that my abusive language was unnecessary, childish and completely demeaned any reasonable point I was trying to make, which I regret. (although with the 'vile B****!!!' comment I was only repeating her own terminology). I get very riled by malice and spite though.

[Rubyrose]

feist - How come I am getting told to move on? WTF? You seem to have missed something here darling!

Octavius - You are right, but sometimes life throws things at you that are hard to deal with but you deal with them the best way you know how, to get yourself through the situation and as someone who can kind of understand where Jammie is coming from, I reckon if we had all said things like 'Oh hunny, just leave it be. She isn't worth it. Let her have him' and this sort of thing would have helped Jammie through and we could have all moved on to the next thread.

[feist]

I told you to get a life, coz you sound a little unhinged sweetie, a little out of control. Hope you;re not falling out of your computer chair....lol

[jammiedodger]

Pa_____ul, i'll agree im 21 so i'll let u refer to me as youngish, but shes 27!

[Rubyrose]

Tiny - That is kind of clear and you were just repeating but it did sound a tad harsh! I think in the middle of all the comments it sounded worse than if you had just said it in jest!

Feist - How the hell do you work out I am on here 12hrs a day! I wish I had 12hrs to spend on here! I am on here in and out whilst at work (coz my work is not consistent) and then for about 2hrs before I go to bed! Tonight I just want to go home, go online and have a little sleep but I have a million and one plans! That's what gets me about people on here..... they really believe what they say!

[feist]

I dont believe a thing you say Ruby, your posts which start usually at 9am go on and on and on all day long. Then you are back on to post more drivel in the evenings...... get out more hun, its summer lol

[Champagne]

Hear hear pa__ul. I'm a very jealous and territorial female, but I realise this is my own personal issue that only I should have to deal with. I don't see why any ex girlfriends or even new girlfriends should have to pay the price.

Every now and then I fall victim of my own jealousy and hate that in a moment of weakness I do something cringeworthy or embarrassing or spiteful. It happens so rarely, but I still hate that I can be that weak.

[Champagne]

jammie, out of curiosity, what have you decided?

If you have decided to retaliate, could you just do me one huge favour and not action it until after the weekend? Say, Monday. Just to see if you have a different perspective then.

[Octavius]

Maybe it is because people on here tend to be older and wiser (well older at least) and although it is an old clich� we know that no good can come of such things. Similarly with you and your married fella.

Although you seem to believe we may have jumped on the �lets abuse Ruby/Jammie� band wagon you must remember that it really did start out with the good intention of offering sound advice of self preservation for the protagonist. Basically we are saying that through our own experiences and opinions we can foresee that potentially you/jammie will end up being the loser. Some things really are just best left alone.

[jammiedodger]

Champagne, obviously as u can probably tell i am a jealous person as well, i donlt like my ex anymore but due to jealously dont want anyone else to either, and in this moment of weakness, let my troubles esculate into this situation! im only human!

[Rubyrose]

Ahhhhhh... Now we are getting somewhere.... Jammie I am 22.. Nearly 23 but was 21 when it happened to me! But when I was with my ex and his ex was harrassing us... I was 16.. he was 19 and she was 21!!! That's worse! I could hold my own at 16 too though ;o)