Breaking up

[peanut273]

Me & my boyfirend was dating for a year & although we really love each other we just argue too much and had a long chat and decided to end things. Our relationship was rocky & always 'on & off' so we know its really for the best. I dont want another guy in my life I need to concentrate on my studying although i'm hurting so much. Everytime we split up we always get back together & go back to each other because we cant let go, then weeks down the line we argue and break up. Thats not the life for both of us but I'm young (only 20) so i guess you can say i'm still quiet nieve to relationships but how do you truely walk away from the one you love. Everytime we get back together we're just trying to escape the inevitable. HELP!

I love him but its time to let go...How'd i do this? :(

[Ice.Maiden]

Get out with your friends peanut, and keep yourself occupied. that way you're less liable to sit around moping.
Once you meet someone else, who you can have a relationship with without arguing all the time - your boyfriend won't seem to matter so much.

[pinktwink]

i agree spend time with your friends learn a new hobby or interest. Concentrate on your studys make the decision to end it for good and stick to it. The hardest pasrt is actually making the decision to walk away for good. Perhaps you may need to cut ties for a while with peolpe or interests that yee both shared.

Good Luck

[peanut273]

We dont share the same mutual friends so thats not a problem...Only problem just now is we live together & I have to find another place.

It hurts more when I go onto social networking sites to see he's flirting with other girls so openly (You'd think he'd do it privately & tell them there fit in private messages so I cant see)

Is it wrong for a woman to go nuts at a guy who looks at fling websites?

he was on www.fling.com

Was I being stupid?

I'm not offended by truth so dont be affraid to comment what u think!

[Ice.Maiden]

I've never heard of this fling website. What is it hun?

[pinktwink]

there is nothing wrong with fling or flirting for a guy however given he is doing it so publically given your position shows how immature he is and that you are better off without him. Whilst it may be tough you would be bettter moving out and making a fresh start and leave him to his games

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree with pink - but maybe you should tell him in a calm way that you object to him looking at these things if they upset you so much. If he takes no notice, then a guy who has so little regard for your feelings isn't the one for you.

[peanut273]

He was arranging to meet up with a woman from the site to have sex! Whiloe being with me :(
Its a site for people to well find a fling!

[pinktwink]

its an adult dating site and a site for singles with live webcams etc ice I googled it as had never heard of it befoew

[happyone2]

But surely, if youve split up then is it really anything to do with you what sites he accesses ?? are you sharing a computer or something ??..........or am i missing something here ??

Perhaps hes being "cruel to be kind" and thinks if he does his own thing it will show you that he has moved on...................... and therefore - move on !!!!

Move out, stick 2 fingers up at him and walk away head held high...............anything else will just look pathetic

[peanut273]

we share a computer just now. I guess you have a point. Its up to him if he wants to do that with his life, he's free to do his own thing...hardest thing is walking away...But talking with friends today & i know i can do it!!! Got a call to say I can move into halls on Monday so I can move out of here :)

I'm just a young pup with a lot to learn but I've never hurt so much in all ma life n my mum lives miles away for a wee hug :'( He meant so much to me.

hey-gota take the rain if you wana see the rainbow i suppose!

[homedeeth]

arranging to have sex with woman from a website???? whilst he was still with you????????

and you're finding it hard to let go? ??????

for gawds sake peanut, drop him like a hot brick!
erase him from your memory, delete his phone number!

[happyone2]

It must be hard for you , missing your mum and having her to give you a hug............... and give you advice..............

Good luck on monday !!

And whilst you dont realise it now, but when you settle down, make new friends and perhaps meet a new man, you will know that it was the best decision you ever made.

you kiss a lot of frogs before you meet you prince !!!