Feeling very very down at the moment : - (

[lovefoolb4u]

I don't know where to begin really.

All of my posts recently have been about how I moved to uni in september and I'm finding it hard.

I'm just starting to realise that I barely have any friends here at all. I talk to two of my flatmates, the other ones are recluses pretty much. And everyone in our building upstairs talks to each other, and all of the flats mix, but we don't mix with them at all. I find that so depressing, because I feel that if I'd made more of an effort in Fresher's week I could have made some really good friends upstairs.

I don't have anyone on my course that I would meet up with outside of class times.

University is nothing like how I expected it to be. I didn't end up joining any clubs, because whenever I went I found it really difficult to socialise and talk to new people, and it always seemed to be about drinking.

My socialising skills have done a downward spiral, and I am terrified at the thought of going to parties where I don't know people, or joining new clubs and trying to meet people. I'm feeling really depressed about it.

I talk to my mum about it a lot, but I feel like she might not completely understand because she ended up alone. She doesn't really have any friends and lives alone, and I don't want to end up like her. I just don't know what to do - I can't pluck up the courage to meet new people at all anymore.

Should I just focus on my studying? That's what my mum said I should do, and tbh I have been falling behind a lot recently.

I'd really appreciate some advice, or just some reassurance!

[crapmemory]

My son decided to try the Uni bar........worked a treat. Made lots of friends and gave him loads of confidence. He did a 4 year course,got a 1st with honours,got a good job and still has all the friends he first made at Uni! Don't shut yourself away you don't know what you might be missing!