Can I tell you a secret?

[bobjugs12]

I've had enough now. I've had a few beers (yes I know drinking on your own isn't sensible lol), and I've decided to spill my soul. Who better to spill it to than people that will a) not judge and b) not know me personally.

I've bragged on here a few times about my conquests, and my ability with the ladies (lol) and to be honest I have.
However, i'm really lonely. I've been trying to fill the void in my life with meaningless sex, and by chatting up vulnerable women i've met on plentyoffish. Since my marriage broke down a couple of years ago I've had a 'serious' relationship, and she ended up a psycho, but i even miss the company of her (i didn't even like her that much, but at least I had someone to cuddle up to at night and share a dinner with). Other than her though, all i've had is one-nighters and quick flings.

I'm not a fussy person, and I don't have unobtainable standards, but I can't meet someone else. I'm not ugly, needy, or smelly; I have a nice car, a decent job, I'm a good dad and a nice bloke. Why do I keep going down the one-night route. Why when I meet a woman who I think I'd like to get to know in more than just a sexual way do I fail

Am I still hung up on my ex wife? If so, how does she still have this much control? If this a personality thing on my part then how do I figure out what it is and change it? God i'm confused!

Somebody help me please

[zzxxee]

see things are looking up already you have made a new email buddy xx

[bobjugs12]

I didn't realise snags had my email addy though?? lol

[ummmm]

I'll email you NoM's addy.

[ummmm]

Sent you a message on FB....

[bobjugs12]

I can't get to FB till about 3ish, have you got my work email address?

[pastafreak]

I've not read all the way through this, but NoMercy said:

" Morning guys. Hey Bob, if I wasn't in Spain and 5 years older than you, I'd definitely go out on a date with you. You look and sound like a great chap, so keep your chin up, and like Ummmm says, try to pick nice girls. Try doing different things like having fun and getting to know the person. Cook for her - even if it's inedible, women like that sort of thing !! x "

Age should have nothing to do with it. I was 5 years older than my husband.....in fact-he too was 28...and it lasted 23 years. So..yes-we drifted apart...but age had nothing to do with it.

Bob...sloshed or sober...you sound a lovely guy with lots to offer someone. You just need to feel confident in yourself again. Time will do the trick
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Go for it guys....you just never know.......;-))

[ummmm]

I think so Bob....it has MOD at the end I think.

Do you want me to email it?

[snags]

''I didn't realise snags had my email addy though?''

Oh I have it... and I know where you live, what you're wearing and what you had for breakfast...

[pericat]

in fact you're outside the window now looking in !!!!! mwhahahah

[rachael88]

stay away from one nighters and dont meet woman on a night out cos the relationship will never work i saw it loads of times before be yourself and dont be a fool

[snags]

Leftfield will be back to headline RockNess in June 2010...

[beryl100able]

Why do you keep going down the one-night route? There's only one answer to that - don't. Forget relationships, get on with your life, YOUR Life, ok, it's precious. Find out what you're good at and do it. Stop chasing women in stupid ways that demean both them and you. Just keep off that, it'll paralyse your progress as a human being and leave you bored and lonely. Give yourself a target in terms of financial stability, inner peace and contentment, health, diet, everything you can think of, and at some point, you're going to get the feeling that you're ready for a relationship with someone who really means something to you. And guess what, she'll be there.