Can I tell you a secret?

[bobjugs12]

I've had enough now. I've had a few beers (yes I know drinking on your own isn't sensible lol), and I've decided to spill my soul. Who better to spill it to than people that will a) not judge and b) not know me personally.

I've bragged on here a few times about my conquests, and my ability with the ladies (lol) and to be honest I have.
However, i'm really lonely. I've been trying to fill the void in my life with meaningless sex, and by chatting up vulnerable women i've met on plentyoffish. Since my marriage broke down a couple of years ago I've had a 'serious' relationship, and she ended up a psycho, but i even miss the company of her (i didn't even like her that much, but at least I had someone to cuddle up to at night and share a dinner with). Other than her though, all i've had is one-nighters and quick flings.

I'm not a fussy person, and I don't have unobtainable standards, but I can't meet someone else. I'm not ugly, needy, or smelly; I have a nice car, a decent job, I'm a good dad and a nice bloke. Why do I keep going down the one-night route. Why when I meet a woman who I think I'd like to get to know in more than just a sexual way do I fail

Am I still hung up on my ex wife? If so, how does she still have this much control? If this a personality thing on my part then how do I figure out what it is and change it? God i'm confused!

Somebody help me please

[bobjugs12]

Peri, cheers for the compliment. I've never even thought about them, do they still exist or is everything done online nowadays?

Wiz, you're a saint and a scholar. Cheers mate

[ummmm]

Bob....look at the positive. You have 3 gorgeous kids, you're fit, healthy, good looking. The world is your oyster....

Pick nice girls....xxx

[bobjugs12]

Ummm, you're giving me a big head :)

[pericat]

Bob I just read you're only 28 - you have ages and maybe give dating agencies a try it might be a bit of craic if nothing else - or I have a 92 year old mother if you like older woman - I'm trying to fix her up - listen to wyzard as well - experience is everything !

[ummmm]

It's true though xx

(sent you an email yonks ago)


I can't remember what I said now though....damn that wine :-)

[bobjugs12]

You to wiz.

Sleep well all
Night

[Eve]

To me it sounds like you are lonely and lacking in self confidence etc... and one of the best things you could do is learn to make you happy, learn to enjoy your life as it is and as a dad, irrelevant of any woman.

I came out of my last relationship with a lot of issues but got myself involved in a social group and have such a brilliant social life, have made some wonderful friends and my self confidence has increased a lot.

I'm by no means all there (I was posting on here myself the other day) but it has made a big difference and I have such a full life I don't have space to feel lonely although, I have to say, albeit I am perfectly happy in my own company which I feel is also very important.

It might also, in time, be a good way of meeting girls you have something in common with and who you can get to know over time.

Maybe you need to try a different angle, rather than looking for a woman to make you happy, make yourself happy and chances are a lovely lady will find you.

I would though, as a word of caution, advise against joining a social group if you would be tempted to put yourself about on it. We currently have a problem with someone newish on the group I'm with and it hasn't gone down well at all.

We have some couples on the group and we're not exactly a prudish lot and people getting together isn't a problem but putting yourself about is just not a great way to ingratiate yourself.

[bobjugs12]

Sorry about this. In the cold (sober) light of day i'm thinking that maybe baring my soul wasn't advisable

[ummmm]

It happens to the best of us....

How are you feeling today? Hungover?

[bobjugs12]

A little. lol

[NoMercy]

Morning guys. Hey Bob, if I wasn't in Spain and 5 years older than you, I'd definitely go out on a date with you. You look and sound like a great chap, so keep your chin up, and like Ummmm says, try to pick nice girls. Try doing different things like having fun and getting to know the person. Cook for her - even if it's inedible, women like that sort of thing !! x

[ummmm]

So you're not at the 'never again' stage?

[bobjugs12]

No i'm not at the never again stage ummm, just at the is it ever gonna happen stage?

Cheers NoM, thanks for the boost

[NoMercy]

How do you think I feel? I'm 33 and still haven't met "the one".

:-/

[ummmm]

I meant the 'never gonna drink again' stage....

As for it ever happening again.....it will.

[bobjugs12]

Ummm, i've made the never drinking again promise countless times lol.

[bobjugs12]

NoM, it's a shame that your in Spain, you're a stunning girl

[ummmm]

Same as....lol

[NoMercy]

Hey, I'm hoping to be back in England permanently at the beginning of June. I really must pull my finger out and start making arrangements.