Might I regret this?

[coccinelle]

I have late husband's wedding ring since he was cremated and have wondered about having my ring and his ring meltered to make just one ring. Will I regret this one day as 'my' wedding ring will no longer exist? but on the other hand, I wouldn't wear his ring (too masculine) and it could be a way of reuniting the two. I have thought of just having his ring adjusted so I would wear it... all ideas very welcome as I don't really know what I shoud do.

[bednobs]

i think JJ means that the gold in a mans ring+the gold in a womans ring Does not = the gold in one ring for a woman. You need to make sue you get the same amount of gold back. However, if it's a friend of yours you shouldnt have to worry

[starone]

I know what jj means. I took my wedding ring in to a jewellers to have it built up because it was getting thin. They charged me £80 and I swear it was exactly the same as when I left it there. Couldn't prove anything but would never do the same again.

[arwyn]

My 1st hubby left Me for a teenager, then when He had lost all his family and spent all His money and ran up loads of debt She left Him so He committed suicide. I wanted his ring to give to our Son but she kept/sold it.
So no I would not have wanted to wear it in any shape or form lol.
But I think It's lovely to hear of happy loving couples.

[237SJ]

I don`t have any experience of doing anything like that but I would be inclined to keep your wedding ring and get your late husband`s ring made into a nice little heart shaped pendant that you can wear.

[barb1314]

Hi coccinelle,just reading this and I wondered if your husbands ring would be big enough to make 2 smaller rings that you could have linked together with yours to form a Russian Wedding Ring (if you understand what I'm talking about :) ) Whatever you do it's a lovely idea. I'd definitely make it into some form of ring rather than wearing it on a chain.

[lilacben]

coccinelle, I like the idea of wearing the ring. My wedding ring has never been off my finger in 40 years in august and I dont think I could take it off ever. So I think having it altered for you to wear would be a lot better. On the middle finger next to it maybe. My love and thoughts are with you. xx

[coccinelle]

Yes; lilac I might have to think about that

[masma]

I wear Mr M's great granny's engagement and wedding ring which were made into one after she died. I think it's a lovely idea and feel very honoured that I've been given it to wear.

[rowanwitch]

Have his ring divided in two and the diameter of both the narrow rings that result reduced to sit either side of yours so you are held by him always

[jewellerjim]

Hi Coccinelle - do you have a daughter/daughters. We have made ladies rings out of merged rings in our shop where the mum has decided to get two rings so that she can wear one for the rest of her life and leave a ring each to her daughters upon her death, so that each daughter gets a part of both mum and dad's wedding bands. They looked beautiful xx

[coccinelle]

rowanwitch: that is an idea to consider and a very good idea; will really consider that. jewellerjim; unfortunately no children but that would have been a good idea too

[bobbie22]

Hi coccinelle. I was interested in your point. I did the same thing with my late husband's ring. I now have a very thick heavy ring which does not fit with my engagemnet ring. If I had this thought again, I would put my husband's ring on a bracelet or on a chain.

[jamesnan]

I have never taken my wedding ring off, and it is my 49th anniversary next week, but the idea of melting the two rings into one is something that would not happen. I personally prefer the idea of wearing it round my neck, rather than melting down, but even better like the idea of just making his ring smaller and wearing it on another finger. I wear my mum's wedding band next to mine, between wedding and engagement ring,
Don't do anything in a hurry! The fact that it is too masculine makes a decision even more difficult to you at this time, but perhaps later you may like the idea.

[tinkerbell23]

totally LOVE barb's idea...x

[emmie]

was wondering if the rings might get passed on to children at some point.

[WELSHYORKIE]

coccinelle, I have my late wifes ring on a chain around my neck and when the time is right I will take off my wedding ring and put in on the chain alongside. Her ring will be passed to my eldest granddaughter for her wedding day, but as she is coming on 6, I think I shall be wearing it for some time yet.

[coccinelle]

barb's and rowanwitch's ideas are good. I'll keep my ring which is very fine and engraved (not with words) and my husband's ring can be made into two and I'll have then engraved with words inside. I'm so glad I did this thread as I feel more reassured. Welshyorkie; I can understand as a man not wearing your wife's ring on a finger and wearing it on a chain.
Actually, I didn't realise jeweller's could be like that bednobs and starbuck.