Living dayligthts?

[warpig1]

Ok, who had the living daylights beat out of them as a kid? Not suggesting that this is the best form of parenting but still remember it!

[ummmm]

Not me.

I know I was smacked on the bum but I can't really remember it.

[Rubyrose]

I did..... several times.. and I'm not talking about a smacked @rse!

[RATTER15]

I think any parent that beats the daylights out of their children are not fit parents and should be locked up for cruelty and child abuse.

I would always prefer a clip around the ear by my Father when I stepped out of line than a long lecture by my Mother, because when my Mother lectured me I felt so guilty when it was explained to me, the consequences of my actions that I didn't forget it for a long time.

I have brought up my children, all very well behaved and rarely ever got into trouble, they are now adults and I am proud to say I never hit them once.

I feel that hitting children is done through frustration anger and lack of an understanding of how to deal with children in a civilised manner.

[warpig1]

ummmm, lucky you, my mother (much as I love her now) was a bit of a manic when we were kids, not sure it did me any harm, though wouldn't perscribe it.

[4getmenot]

Not beaten the loven daylights out of no, but I had a few times of running up the stairs backwards so my dad or mum couldnt wack my @rse :-) all for my own good though.

[spk]

I had a couple of smacked bums but I was never kicked from one end of the house to the other. Didnt do me any harm though

[4getmenot]

sorry living, I'm having one of those fat finger days

[warpig1]

ratter15, thats my point, I know as a child that in this current day it would have been child abuse, not knocking my mum - there was obviously other issues going on. My best friend from way back, since I was four, her dad used to beat her with a blackthorn stick, can still remember the dents in her legs!!! But at the time this didn't seem strange to me. Also remember hand marks on my legs from when I was shacked, again this did not seem unusual.

[loobie]

I was subjected to several arse and back of legs smackings!! Nothing major though!! I was a cheeky little cow when I was little so I really did deserve them!! And like the rest of you, they haven't done me any harm at all.

[RATTER15]

I don't mean to offend anybody, but this "it didn't do me any harm" thing I find a bit strange, does this mean that it is OK to hit your kids, as it wont do them any harm?? Don't you think it is better to teach children through kindness than violence!!

[4getmenot]

yep its a great way to teach kids, I will smack my children too on the back of the legs, it taught me never to do it again. And if you think about it since smacking was toned down a bit kids have become alot worse. When the cane was about you didnt get half as many 10 year olds getting ASBOS :-)

[warpig1]

Rratter15, its the old adage 'it didn't do me any harm' that makes it acceptable, the fact that I am asking about it means that, in some respects, it did do me harm!!!! However am not a mass murderder and think this is what people think sometimes, ie - if our parents had not have hit us we would all be locked up now!

[loobie]

I gotta agree with 4get there. Don't get me wrong I don't agree with anything more than a smack on the bum but it's the only way I learnt not to do things. I see my nephew now running rings around my sister because the word no simply does not have the same emphasis.

[4getmenot]

oh yer I'm not agreeing with beatings at all, but I cant see any child being scarred for life from a smack on the bum when they did something really bad.

[warpig1]

So I am taking from this that, while you may have been hit as a child, no severe wallopings were given out? Cr@p! Maybe its just the people i know?

[redcrx]

Im with 4getmenot. I was smacked as a kid but i cant remember it. There are shades of grey for everything and smacking is one. A parent like mine is a far cry from a parent who beats their child, smacks repeatedly, uses instruments to smack or hits a child around the head etc etc. Its like saying that a parent who takes a child off school for one day during term time is the same as a parent who is sentanced to a prison term for allowing a child to truant for 3 years.
You parent was nothing like mine by the sound of it warpig, and thats why i say 'it didnt do me any harm'

[redcrx]

maybe it is the people you know warpig, there were no severe wallopings in my life and i cant remember having been smacked.

[warpig1]

lol redcrx, you and 4getmenot agreeing on parenting??? are you not siblings??? Apologies if I am wrong.

[noxlumos]

I was systematically beaten, kicked, burned and cut by my father pretty much every day from the age of 3 or 4 until he was killed when I was seven. I know from treatment that I've recieved as an adult that he broke my arm, my fingers, ribs and one two seperate occasions fractured my skull. The resulting brain injury has led me to have memory issues, slight tremors and ahead and above all anger management and violence issues. It's only in the last 10 years that I discovered that when the particular area of brain that is damaged in me is damaged you get aggressive, unpredictable and violent. Since I went to prison for GBH, it does rather make me wonder whether or not I would have been the way I was angerwise had I not recieved those injuries and it would have meant had I been aware that I may have sought help with that earlier instead of just assuming to myself that I was just angry because of the way my father used to treat me.
I have NEVER hit any of my children, nor even raised my voice to them, it's completely unnecessary. Very young kids can be reasoned with and all of my kids are happy, freethinking polite individuals who haven't or wouldn't be a social nuisance, so why hit when you don't have to?All you do is normalise violence and create aggressive kids. You are demonstrating how to be aggressive. It's like a masterclass and it should not be acceptable in any way in any civilised society.

[4getmenot]

yer I was hit as a child but no severe beatings and dont know many friends that were beaten either in my age range so I dont understand why is that cr@p. When I really played up I would get a hard slap on my bum that would leave a big red hand print. But never punched or beatings that would leave a mark. And I would do this to my children too as a shock tactic.