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[tradey]

please i need some advice,when i was 15 i fell pregnant had my son at the age of 16,i was with my sons father just before my son turned 2,i meet this great lad who im still with now after 21yrs,the thing is ive never told my son this isnt his biological dad,hes going out with a girl whos in her last year at school someone has come up to her today and said that hes my sons brother,my son has been on the phone to me asking questions as his girlfriend has told him what this boys said,please i need help what do i do,i could cry my hubbys away working,do i carry on telling my son its all a lie ignor whats being said,god i really really need advice,my son has also said this lads dads got my sons birth cirtificut,ive got it its got my madan name on it and no fathers name help me please

[sense4all]

I am so sorry that you are on your own as this situation has reached a creschendo.

I do think that this is a time to put all your cards on the table hun. If your son has a GF he now knows that sometimes relationships are complex things. I do believe that this is a good opp. to tell it like it is.

He will need some time to take the facts on board, and have a think, who wouldn't! I don't think that he will hate you forever etc...

UNLESS you now choose to compound an oversight with a lie! It's not true etc etc, the other person is lying. Say God forbid that there was a medical emergency and some clever clogs said that it was not possible for this or that person to be your true father - or the only suitable donor for something was from the other family and so on and so forth ... stuff like this happens all the time! The pooh hit the fan at our old neighbours over brother - sister issues but with mid teenagers , it was a hellish couple of months but they are all back to being one big happy family now. ( New grandchild needed family compatability testing for medical purpose.)

I feel for some people in my own extended family who are going to have their whole cosy existance shattered when their Fathers will is read and it proves he has two children from previous liason (who have lodged interest on his estate because he has ignored them their whole lives ). I think that is gonna be nasty ,and is going to cause terrific trouble for his wife who has colluded in the active deception of these sisters.

I would rather be told now if I was your son! I hope this all works out T. ,please give us a shout - if you need to - in the absence of your other half, love SenseX.

[sense4all]

Been thinking of you a lot over the last couple of days - hope all is well with you. love Sense.