gness - "Then I will have to strongly disagree with those who say Lee didn't fall in battle, Andy.....for me he did."
A fair point - we see things differently.
"To continue to replace a memorial...or repair damage to his name....well my head is trying to agree with you....but my heart always wins over...so I would do that.... every time...."
I completely understand your reasons for not wanting to bow down to senseless vandalism, and from a 'heart' point of view I am entirely with you, but I merely pointed out the financial penalties incurred by ongoing relacement.
"I can't put myself in the place of his family and friends....but I would see the attacks on my son's name, by the enemy who killed him, as a small victory...
....that sounds perverse, but I know what I mean.....please don't take my inability to express it well the wrong way....x"
I understand what you are saying - maybe they see it the same way.
"i like the idea of a memorial bench......a place to reflect....."
Me too, especially if the name commemorated is carved into the structure, which would make it less easy to deface, or steal, as in the case of a plaque.