Barsel - //
Andy, you are obviously someone who has decided exactly what happened here and you are not even going to think you might be mistaken. //
Wrong.
I am someone who is happy to accept that rude behaviour occurred, because the person who behaved rudely admitted it, apologised, and withdrew from her role.
It doesn;t matter what I think - or what anyone else thinks.
Lady Hussey, who was there - has made it clear what happened with her subsequent actions.
Now if she can accept that, why can't you?
If I was in that situation, I would not be offended as I would ask the person asking me the question what exactly do they mean. //
Fair enough - but you weren't and if Ms Fulani opted to take offence, that is her privilege, and we are in no position to deny her that.
// I would not put it on social media, go to the papers, the TV and radio and cause this woman to lose her job //
Ms Fulani did not cause Lady Hussey to 'lose her job' - it's not a 'job, it's a position, and she resigned from it - Ms Fulani had no input into that decision, it was made by Lady Hussey herself.