Mibs, I haven't read your reply to Theland, which I've just noticed as I'm about to post this, so I'll look at that later. This is in reply to your message to me.
Since I know absolutely nothing about you, my question 'Do you enjoy being an enigma", was flippantly posed as the result of momentarily musing - one of those rare moments when we allow our mind free rein to wander where it will. Who is he? What's his name? How old is he? What does he look like? What does he sound like? Where does he live? What does he do? Unimportant and unnecessary questions, no doubt, and not questions I would presume to ask, or expect to receive answers to, but thoughts nevertheless, that as inquisitive human beings, surely must cross the minds of each and every one of us when thinking about someone we talk to regularly, but have never met?
You rightly say that many of the problems associated with human relationships result from a lack of mutual understanding, but in understanding ourselves, do we not often become even further detached from those who understand neither us, nor themselves, and make no effort to do so? One of my objectives also, is mutual understanding, but there are many in this world to whom questions such as this never arise, and, hence, will never be considered. They don't seek to understand themselves, or anyone else, and in my experience merely mentally, and erroneously, endow those around them with the qualities (or otherwise) that they themselves possess, and which they doggedly perceive as 'the norm'. Therefore, to seek, or to attempt to achieve mutual understanding in such circumstances is a futile exercise. Bridges capable of spanning such vast chasms can never be constructed, and this I accept.
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