Hospital Bed At Home

[Thisoldbird]

It's looking like we may have to have a hospital bed at home when my husband is discharged from hospital.

We already changed from double to singles which is fine but they are both against a wall. Hospital bed will need to allow nurses/ carers to use both side of bed..our second very tiny bedroom is already crammed with other equipment he needs.

Before anyone down sizes make sure you keep this sort of situation in mind.
At this rate I'll be sleeping in the shed!!
I'm normally such an organised person I'm hating this disruption.
The other option is go into care. I really haven't the heart to do that to him. It's like turning someone out of there home.

This isnt a question just me rambling on a sleepless night of worry.

[choux]

Dear friend, my prayers and thoughts are with you both. God bless x

[anneasquith]

Oh my dear friend. There is nothing I can do/or say to give any comfort to you both, except prayers. You and * the boy* should be with each other at the end.
My thoughts are with you both. God bless . Anne .

[choux]

I have been looking in through the night, dear lady. I have said so many prayers for you. x

[ducksie]

TOB - I had been following your post here, always lost for words that can maybe offer you comfort, you've been so strong, I can only say I will keep you in my prayers and please God your dearest beloved husband has a peaceful passing ❤

[Thisoldbird]

My darling 'boy' passed away at 04.15 am this morning.

I sat beside him holding his hand, talking to him..I got him to give me a bit of a smile as his eyes were fixed on me.


He had a long slow painful death. He was a fighter to then end.

I'm heartbroken as most are at the loss of a loved one. If you have a partner..treasure them and look after each other. Life is very precious.

Thank you all who have followed my story..and advice given.

Love and best wishes to you all xx

[ducksie]

Oh TOB, I am so sorry for your loss x I truly am. After such a battle your beloved husband put up, may he now be at peace, I hope for you that you can draw comfort that you were there to help him see out this long hard battle he fought with his health, and that now there will be someone to look after you❤ my thoughts and prayers are with you x

[choux]

Oh dearest lady, I am truly sorry for your loss of your beloved husband and after all you had done to try and ensure his comfort it is heartbreaking to read that his passing was not peaceful. He is at peace now though, thank God.

I find it difficult to imagine exactly how you are feeling now, after a lifetime together and sharing such absolute love.

You are a very strong person and I pray you have family and good friends who can try and help you now. No matter how much his passing was expected we know that when the time comes it is another matter entirely. You certainly did your very best to be with him and that must have been the longest 24 hours you have been through.

I send you so much love and you continue to be in my prayers. Thank you for letting us know. Please try for some rest now. God bless you. x

[anneasquith]

You and the boy had a very precious time this a.m.
Thank you so much for posting today. It has been a pleasure to share your journey.take care . Anne .

[albaqwerty]

I am heartbroken for your loss, old bird. Take comfort in the knowledge of so many years of love and being loved. No-one chooses the method of their passing but your devotion and mutual love you have shared with us on Answerbank is a shining example of love you have my deepest condolences xx

[jennyjoan]

I too am sorry to hear of your "boy's" passing. The one lovely thing is that you were together - together in life and together in death which is a beautiful thing

I do hope you draw strength from wherever to fight the terrible loss of your beloved. You done your best from the beginning to the end. God bless you too old bird.

[anneasquith]

That’s a lovely post jj .

[choux]

For what it is worth, old bird, the 5 replies above are from people who have followed your news without the aid of any jungle drums but who have genuinely cared, hoped and prayed for you and your beloved "boy".

ducksie is in the Republic of Ireland, anneasquith in the east of Scotland, albaqwerty in the west of Scotland, jennyjoan in Northern Ireland and I am in England. I hope that in some way this helps you to know how these who are "strangers" to you do care. To offer any support or advice is a kindness shown brought about by your story that has moved each of us.

That story does not end here. If you wish it to continue I am sure we will be here for you still.

From my point of view I take comfort that the last words your devoted husband heard were probably those when you told him you loved him and he replied with a smile. x

[anneasquith]

So true choux. I would like to know tob’s real name. (First)Though she may wish not to divulge.

[choux]

That might be intrusive, anne, we do not need anyone's real name here. We have managed very well without it for 174 postings.

[anneasquith]

This is true.

[choux]

Dear old bird, I hope you have had some sleep. I am going to have a lay down myself now but no doubt not for very long. Prayers first. God bless you x

[albaqwerty]

Would like to add that (and be presumptuous) that in the days ahead we will be with you There is a lot to be positive about cyber friendship. Your days ahead will be different. please be assured that there is compassion and assistance on here Night Choux and thank you for everything you've said xx

[choux]

Night night, alba and well said. x

[choux]

Sending you the gentlest of hugs today ((())) x

[choux]

Night night. x