Shall i keep the baby?

[natnats]

I really dont no what too do. I am 9 weeks pregnant. I am 28 yrs old. 2 1/2 months ago i had a bad accident and broke 18 bones, nearly all have healed apart from my pelvis which is taking its time.

The father is a complete waste of space and doesn't want to no. He has messed me about from day one. I cant help but love him though. We only meet 3 months ago.

I dont no if i'm ready to be a single mum. I'm still at home with my parents and have no job because of the accident.

I keep changing my mind and cant stick to a final decision. It would be difffernt of the father was a decent guy and gave me some support.

I have an appointment next monday for a consultation at the abortion clinic. I really don't no what too do and dont want to regret my decision. I know, no matter what i decide it's going to be really hard. what shall i do?????

[DTCwordfan]

Not exactly the smartest thing to do and what were you thinking, unprotected sex after 3 weeks; you ain't 15 or 16.

Its 100% your choice - but take counsel be it any of the folk that the good AB folk have advised, your family (and you are selling them down the drain if you hae had this accident - and they are certainly going to know about it if you decide, "yes I am keeping it"), your priest.....a trusted friend, whoever.

And learn from this if you go the no route.

[craft1948]

Do they?

[stokemaveric]

the point being will he change when the baby is here?? im afraid the answer is a resounding no..if he doesnt care enough for you now,believe me he will care even less when the baby arrives..sorry if that sounds harsh but he wont change and it will be you bringing up the baby alone..and on whatever money the state will give you because he will not offer financial support..but deep down you know this dont you??...hope things work out for you...

[mccfluff]

being pregnant with a broken pelvis? is that safe (not sure of the right word here so have used safe) for you?

[ummmm]

It will be very painful....

[craft1948]

fluff with a broken pelvis I'm amazed she could manage the conception.

[notasyoungasiwas]

natnats I'm sorry but you do sound quite immature for a 28 year old, your post could have been written by a much younger girl. At 28 I would have known what to do, probably wouldn't have got involved with a 'waste of space' in the first instance. Speaking for myself, I would keep the baby. I know it's hard the thought of being a single mum, but in years to come I feel you'd be glad you kept him/her. Your parents may even be glad to be grandparents when baby arrives. Saying all that though, only you can decide and I wish you the very best of luck.

[mccfluff]

true

[Sqad]

OK ...a quick precis:

12 weeks ago....met a bloke.
10 weeks ago ..broke pelvis and 18 other bones.
9 weeks ago...got pregnant.

Blimey....how did he find you copulate with all that Plaster of Paris?

[Sqad]

It's a windup....but a very entertaining one...;-)

[daisya]

Where there's a will_ there's a way Sqad!

[Sqad]

daisya...you would have though that the visitors to the next next bed, would have noticed him "climbing on"....LOL

[notasyoungasiwas]

Any response natnats ....?????

[craft1948]

Is the father a nurse/doctor?

[daisya]

@ Swad, there was a missing letter at the end of will <smirk> and yes you would have thought they'd have know though if they were blind and deaf either side ... maybe not lol.

[Sqad]

crafty....it takes "balls" for a doctor to interrupt a ward round to sh@g a patient with a fractured pelvis and 18 broken bones.

I have done it , but only a couple of times.....LOL

[Ric.ror]

Some call it an unborn foetus
I call it a baby
Have it and if you don't want it when it is born give it to me
I will say the same to anyone in the same position
In 10 years you may still regret having an abortion but I can guarantee you won't regret having a baby
You asked so I am telling you what I think

[daisya]

oops, sorry Sqad....you're not a swad are you <ahem>

[ummmm]

Ric.ror....some people DO regret having their babies.

[4getmenot]

i think you need to speak to the father, he has a right to know and then you will have more of an idea what to do