Shall i keep the baby?

[natnats]

I really dont no what too do. I am 9 weeks pregnant. I am 28 yrs old. 2 1/2 months ago i had a bad accident and broke 18 bones, nearly all have healed apart from my pelvis which is taking its time.

The father is a complete waste of space and doesn't want to no. He has messed me about from day one. I cant help but love him though. We only meet 3 months ago.

I dont no if i'm ready to be a single mum. I'm still at home with my parents and have no job because of the accident.

I keep changing my mind and cant stick to a final decision. It would be difffernt of the father was a decent guy and gave me some support.

I have an appointment next monday for a consultation at the abortion clinic. I really don't no what too do and dont want to regret my decision. I know, no matter what i decide it's going to be really hard. what shall i do?????

[CAJ1]

Only you can make that decision

[ummmm]

Duplicate post...

http://www.theanswerb.../Question1043749.html

[redcrx]

and you think that someone here will be able to make your decision? It doesnt work that way Im afraid.

You need to talk it through with someone who knows you, a close friend, family member or partner.

Speak to the consultant or whoever is treating you still for your injuries, your pelvis may not support a pregnancy (and god knows how you managed to fall pregnant straight after such a bad accident)

[WELSHYORKIE]

Have you not got someone, like mum, to speak to and discuss?

[lankeela]

In my opinion you have really got to want a baby - if you are unsure then I would say you don't really want it.

[natnats]

my family aren't the sort i can speak too.

[andy-hughes]

You have to be very very honest witrh yourself.

Can you offer this baby a decent life, feed clothe and house her until she is eighteen, including the emotional and physical support she will need?

If not, and your circumstances indicate that this will be difficult - then you should consider your options.

It's a shame that this baby was not conceived as part of a relationship - and despite you saying you love the father, he obviously fails to feel the same way about you.

You can consider adoption as another option, but i would suggest you speak to your GP who will refer you for some specialist counselling from people who can help you make this very very difficult choice.

[Sqad]

The father seems to be a "waste of space", you are unemployed and immature at the age of 28years of age......almost a waste of space.

I ask you......what future is in store for that unborn foetus?

[Sqad]

Ooops andy put it better than me.....!!

[ummmm]

Unemployed because of an accident Sqad...!!

[redcrx]

if you cant speak to your parents then speak to people who are trained to discuss all options http://www.mariestope...lp_%5e_advice%24.aspx

[Sqad]

ummmm.... UNEMPLOYED........does it matter how?

Question for ummmm...do you think ...just guess...if she will ever be employable?

[ummmm]

How can answer that when I don't know her?

Just like you can't say that she's immature....or 'almost' a waste of space. Bang out of order for someone in a difficult situation like this...bang out of order!

[Sqad]

ummmm.....Fine.

[craft1948]

No ummmm................9 weeks pregnant having known the father 12 weeks and having unprotected sex is bang out of order.

[ummmm]

No it's not Craft....careless, but not out of order.

[craft1948]

Well considering she's pregnant with very poor prospects at the very least it's irresponsible.

[annie0000]

I still wonder how someone could have a bad accident breaking mulitudes of bones, just after meeting a bloke and still want to do the deed with them and conceive a child a matter of weeks later - something doesn't seem quite right here....

[natnats]

i had a very good job before my accident thank you. And all these yrs i have been very carefull about getting pregnant and never even had a scare until now. These things happen sometimes noatter how carefull you are.