Shall i keep the baby?

[natnats]

I really dont no what too do. I am 9 weeks pregnant. I am 28 yrs old. 2 1/2 months ago i had a bad accident and broke 18 bones, nearly all have healed apart from my pelvis which is taking its time.

The father is a complete waste of space and doesn't want to no. He has messed me about from day one. I cant help but love him though. We only meet 3 months ago.

I dont no if i'm ready to be a single mum. I'm still at home with my parents and have no job because of the accident.

I keep changing my mind and cant stick to a final decision. It would be difffernt of the father was a decent guy and gave me some support.

I have an appointment next monday for a consultation at the abortion clinic. I really don't no what too do and dont want to regret my decision. I know, no matter what i decide it's going to be really hard. what shall i do?????

[bednobs]

it sometimes amazes me that people have problems putting themselves in other people's shoes, even just for a short while, or are full of assumptions about people. I remeber after i lost heather, someone on here told me i must be lying because i had also asked a question about some friends coming round for dinner (as if i couldn't had friends round because i'd lost a baby and had a hip replacement) if something is outside of your experience, dosen't mean it can't happen.
how useful isit really to point out to someone how stupid they've been, or what a lowlife YOU think they are?

[ummmm]

Not very bednobs....a bit disgraceful imo...

[natnats]

I couldn't of put it better myself bednobs!!

[natnats]

i no i've been stupid and made mistakes, but dont we all sometimes.

[netibiza]

Agree with CAJI, it can only be your decison. Here are some options to help:

Adoption; yes you will go on to have a life but you will always wonder who and where is the child, then when it reaches 18yr it may try to find you, that can be a joy or a sadness.

Abortion: Over and done with, but can you live with the what if's!!

Keeping the baby: A long and loving haul, joys and troubles, ups and downs. Will another man take on another man's child, some do and some don't.

Then there is fostering: Your child being brought up in another person's home, but you get to see them often.

Your choice, no one else can make it for you.

[natnats]

I have spoken to the father and he wants me too keep it. But he wont even meet me face to face to talk about it. So i dont hold much hope for him being around when the baby is here

[notasyoungasiwas]

Good points bednobs.

[pa___ul3]

I think a point to consider also is your injury, I think the emotional side of the issue has been covered, but you should definitely speak to your GP to assess the physical risks too. Best of luck!

[4getmenot]

well its all down to you then. Totally agree with bednobs some people have been very harsh on here and im sure they wouldnt say it in that way if they didnt have a computer to hide behind.

[natnats]

thank you redhelen. I no only i can decide. Its just so difficult. I've got a lot of thinking to do.

[tigerlelly]

If you are lucky the Drs will make the decision for you. I can't see how it is possible to stay pregnant with a broken pelvis; ruin you for life I should think.

[ummmm]

I agree with tigerlelly....go and see the doctor before making a decision.

[Sqad]

redhelen....you may well be right in saying that I am a moron.....but still no answer as to how she became pregnant, one week after that accident?
She MUST have been in hospital when she conceived.

[craft1948]

Sorry 4get I would say the same to natnats face, and I stand by my comments.

[leanne_1987]

i have a friend in the exact same postion except for breakin a lot of bone!
First of all, would you regret it and feel guilty if you had an abortion? 2nd will you be off to work in the near future? or are you on sick pay? there are alot of help around nowadays, i'm a single mum, my daughter is 3,doesnt have anything to do with her father..maybe twice a year he'll say hello in street! i've coped fine. you may not have someone to share the stress with but you get all the rewards to yourself e.g. all the firsts... your 28 and still with your parents is that your own choice? you say your parents are not the kind you can speak to, do they know your even pregnant and hinking about an abortion?

[4getmenot]

but sqad thats not what question is about, she needs help now not in the past, Its done now, there is a human being to think about here!

[Sqad]

4get....it's a windup...there is NO future.

[4getmenot]

craft I said some, I'm sure all would stand by their views as thats what they are but some I'm sure wouldnt be so rude about it.