Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[spathiphyllum]

"it would appear" that at no point did i say that was normal.

[anneasquith]

Returning to the op, spanking a toddler is one thing, hitting a 21 year old is assault tinker bell .

[spathiphyllum]

thankyou anne. Yes i agree

This whole thread i have had a subtle spank on the bottom in mind at a young age.

[Rockrose]

Noooooo not bitty - arghghg that is in my head now

[ummmm]

This thread is starting to sound a tad perverted (by Spath)

[spathiphyllum]

No, i just think the mind set of some people isn't up to this discussion. "bitty... bitty" ?????? yeah and I'm making it sound off.... -.-

Calico was the one who bought up bedroom dominance when it had no place on this thread.

I have kept it suitable.

[Rockrose]

//If a mother of any age wanted to spank her 40 year old son then so be it. //
You do seem to be alright with it though - don't you.

[spathiphyllum]

Yeah it has nothing to do with me, if that's what she wants to do so be it. If the kid lets her is another question.

[spathiphyllum]

How about this. Read my words and try not to add your own connotations to them.

[Rockrose]

Do you want to borrow a shovel to dig yourself out of that hole?

[ummmm]

We have read your words.

[Calicogirl]

I said the ONLY place dominance has in a relationship is in the bedroom, nothing 'unsuitable' about stating that. I was actually advocating equality in a relationship, you're the one who thinks there always has to be a dominant and a submissive in every out of the bedroom scenario, but then you were spanked as a child as maybe that's why.

[spathiphyllum]

and in doing that Kval you made a child / parent thread become a sexual relation thread. Odd.

I don't thin there always has to be a dominate character, i just think most of the time there is, a naturally dominant one.

[spathiphyllum]

Smetimes dominance shifts depending on the situation,(in a relationship, now) but there is always someone taking some kind of lead. If not, then you're saying without the relationship you'd still be doing the same things the same ways?

[Rockrose]

You made it sexual on page 2 when you asked to be spanked Spath! Don't blame Calico

[spathiphyllum]

Just because someone shows dominance doesn't mean they're being unequal.

[spathiphyllum]

for being naughty, not for sexual gratification.

[tinkerbell23]

On the other end of the scale if 21 is assault....

When is too young?? 6 months? 1? 2? 4?

I think we should just keep our hands to ourselves.

Interestingly for me.... my husband has a daughter who I would never dream of hitting anyway BUT we discipline her without violence... it would be VERY much frowned upon for me to smack her and again i would never but to me it goes to show that we can parent without hitting.

I actually avoid raising my voice etc because im not her “mum”. I think of my job and how i sometimes feel like screaming at folk but I dont.... therefore I have self control & I dont do it as a “parent”...

Totally admitting for a fact I am sure Id raise my voice at my own.... very sure lol! X

[spathiphyllum]

I did mention early on that i think "spanking a 3 year old is a bit warped isn't it"

[pixie374]

What age is spanking acceptable then? No pain or humiliation involved (apparently) but it is still a punishment?