Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[Mamyalynne]

You can certainly dare do what you wish and I recommend you be left to do it in the dark and alone.

[spathiphyllum]

Alone? Don't worry mamy there will always be a groupie around me throwing insults and trying to demean anything i say.

[sherrardk]

You’re just getting odder and odder - the whole notion of hitting a child that you love and would do anything for is already bad enough (because they’ve done something you don’t approve of - maybe should have brought them up better then) but the 1940’s, getting the kid to bend over your knee to be spanked is just bizarre.

[Calicogirl]

I wouldn't bet on that, and you might want to look up the definition of 'groupie' whilst you're at it.

[spathiphyllum]

"Awww...bless your cotton socks!!"

I know right, all these people trying to demean and suppress me :/ Can't even talk about the topic at hand without sly comments.

[B00]

Lets stick the the topic folk- no insults please. Its a nice day and my birthday so play nicely- ta x

[spathiphyllum]

It is a beautiful day mid west not a cloud in the sky

[ummmm]

He's a troll, B00, he posts to wind people up.

[Rockrose]

Well I'm am off to do some gardening as its such a lovely day.

[B00]

Well to be fair ummmm, he posted a decent enough question, which deserves appropriate answers and debate.

There's always the option to completely ignore him or report if you believe he's going too far, but I can't see in this instance, but we all know insults aint the way to go in here :-)

[spathiphyllum]

It seems people are split on weather or not spanking is acceptable. Some consider it abuse, others see that sometimes there seems no easier or better way to quickly resolve a spiralling situation

In conclusion (in my opinion) it should not be banned. Child abuse is already illegal, so if spanking your child turns into abuse then there is already a crime for that. However i think the very occasional moment where the child plays up to the point of getting a spank on the bottom is fine, anything more is OTT. Especially actions such as the one Tinks has very kindly provided when she didn't have to.

[hereIam]

I'm with BOO at 08:29. Good post.

[spathiphyllum]

for other reading BOOs post is on page 7.

[woofgang]

"The child can either, take away the lesson that doing wrong will result in being punished, or they will take away the lesson they can hit things. I personally think the first lesson (doing wrong, or what mummy doesn't want you to do) will result in a spanked bottom will overlook the second, because a kid knows he's not allowed to hit other kids, so in doing so, he will be punished by a spank from mummy."

so its ok for adults to punish by hitting but its not ok for kids to punish by hitting?

[woofgang]

Boo "I'm not saying my way is right or wrong, it's just what I did *shrug*"

but you must have thought it was right because you did it?

[spathiphyllum]

correct just like it's OK for an adult to have a beer but it's not OK for a kid to have a beer. It's OK for an adult to teach their own child a lesson with slight physical action and it is not OK for a kid to feel they can then use that same principle.

If we get into the realms of what can adults do and kids can't then there will be many, very good examples to why adults can do more things than a child.

[B00]

I thought it was right for my children and the situation that merited a smack on the leg or bottom at the time. I'm not saying it's right for other people to follow, nowt to do with me how they bring up their children.

I am however genuinely curious how others who dont/ didnt smack their pre school children disciplined their offspring?

[pixie374]

Speech... Even a 2 year old can understand as long as you explain it the right way. The most physical I was (other than my earlier confession...) was to remove them from something that might harm them.

[B00]

My kids must've been pretty dumb then, as I still remember me saying no and explaining why it wasnt a good idea to stick their fingers in plug sockets (as an example), till i was blue in the face and they still did it. A sharp tap on the hand seemed to work though.