Good bye answerbank

[mibn2cweus]

Since Naomi will not give me the ****ing key I have decided to follow Jesus and be a Christian just like Theland. I am ashamed of my past history here so I'm going to devote the time I used to spend on ab to reading the Bible. No question really because I no longer care about what people think. I'll get all my answers from God from now on thank you.

[China Doll]

Well fingers crossed it all comes good for him and his family.

[China Doll]

Oh... I got the answer to my puzzle by the way so you're all saved the water works for another day!

[naomi24]

China, this is odd. I'd swear your post with the link wasn't there when I posted mine about betraying trust. I'll have a proper look at that tomorrow.

I'm not going to do anything, Luna. This was just a friend telling me how disappointed she was. I just listened.

Starman, can I have your opinion on keeping confidences please?

I too hope things work out for Theland, and I hope he comes back soon.

Night everyone. x

[mibn2cweus]

China, Cop first, last and whenever needed (with prisoner) to bring raft to other side. (Prisoner can be left alone).

Back with solution later . . .

[mibn2cweus]

erm . . . nevermind

[mibn2cweus]

Naomi, Perhaps your friend is the one now best equipped to advise you.

[naomi24]

Thanks, Starman, but I wasn't looking for advice. Just opinions. It seems to me that few can truly be trusted to keep things to themselves, and for that reason I rarely confide in anyone. Being well-known in the community, I appear to be the secret-holder around here, but it never ceases to amaze me when someone comes along and tells me all the details of a secret I'm guarding so closely. Still I say nothing - but on those occasions I have to admit to succumbing to a little smile at the irony - or the incredulity -of it.

[naomi24]

That rarely happens to me Luna, because I rarely tell anyone anything at all - and certainly nothing personal. The last time it happened it involved nothing very important - it was only about a dress - but it was a special dress and I'd sworn my cousin to secrecy. A week later her daughter said to me 'oh I bet that dress is lovely! Mum said it's blue'. And guess what? I'll never tell my cousin anything in confidence again. We live and learn.

How are you feeling today, Luna. Did you go to work?

So come on Starman, do you have an opinion on keeping confidences?

[naomi24]

I'm ok, thanks Luna, but sorry you're not on top form. Keep positive.

When are you seeing La Boheme?

[mibn2cweus]

Naomi, I cannot fathom what you're getting at with this confidence issue but I will venture out on this peer at the risk of missing the boat completely and coming up all wet just to demonstrate that I am a good sport.

I obviously cherish my privacy. I am insecure, diffident and reluctant to use public facilities even where individual stalls are provided, not just for sanitary considerations and this posture is not much less apparent when among good friends, even people with whom I�ve been as intimate as is humanly possible. There, I�ve said too much already!

In principle I presume anything not explicitly specified nor obviously in the public domain is presented to me solely for my own consumption. Having found that others do not share this principle I have learned to keep my mouth shut and try instead to gather any perjurious information I require to draw any necessary conclusions from secure anonymous sources.

No man in this day and age is an island but I carefully guard my bridges and believe that others have an obligation to themselves, and I advise them to, do the same.

I have acquired a great mistrust for the ability of the general public to evaluate and prosecute what is acceptable and essential moral behavior. Even amongst friends I often find it necessary to explain my guiding principles only after which they begin to understand my modus operandi and typically sanction, if not admire, my reasoning in light of the once perceived ends served. I do not fit comfortably within the cookie cutter mentality.

[mibn2cweus]

All this is to say that I have my own secrets, any of which I am willing to share once the prerequisite context for a rational ethical basis for understanding and making sound judgments has been mutually established.

Among those who share a mutual understanding of the common moral precepts as established by our nature and the reality to which we all must conform to thrive and without which we perish, there is little that one would feel a need to guard as secret or live in fear or dread of disclosure or discovery. Unfortunately this is not the shape of the reality we are in many ways forced to live in today.

Hope this was pertinent or at least worth a gander. My answer can only be as specific as your question.

[naomi24]

Starman, I'm not getting at anything. I was simply interested to know whether the inhabitants of the Sanctuary share my views on confidentiality - and it seems you do. Thank you for answering.

Night everyone. x

[Theland1]

My daughter is in imminent labour, and she and her husband know that whatever the outcome, the baby will be loved unconditionally be me and the rest of the family.

My son also knows that I am not being a judge and accept him as my loving son, to who I return love in equal measure regardless of his sexual orientation.

My fear for him is that he will not be as happy as he would be in a conventional relationship. My heart bleeds for him if he were to miss out on those things that make us happy, such as family and kids.

It is true that I have difficulty squaring the circle with my own religious beliefs, but my son just got a 2:1 degree in Theology from Chester University, so he knows my concerns regarding the authority of the Bible.

China, your words are welcome, but maybe I didn't explain myself too well. My love for my children is unconditional. Period. My son knows that.

[Theland1]

Oh how I yearn for the taste of a well aimed custard pie, the thrill of a wellie boot up the rear end, and a host of pranks from the Sanctuarians.

C'mon Mibs, make my day, and tell us just one little secret about yourself. 40+ or 40- ?

Married or no?

Kids or no?

General area of employment? Computers? Teacher? Factory? Office? Self employed? It won't make you easier to identify, but would give us an insight into your paradigm for the views you hold, would it not? I think so.