So she is at it again!!

[I.Don No]

Kate McCann now thinks it was possibly the clothes that her daughter was wearing that led to her kidnap....according to The Sun.....I know, I know not the most reliable of sources, but please.........

It is about time that this woman faced up to her part in this tragic affair.

Update:This Thread Is Closed. It was Closed Using First-Come-First-Serve Democracy

[ladybirder]

237 no need to apologise it gets confusing on here sometimes. But in your 22.03 answer you wrote <Personally I think Madeleine is no longer alive and the ironic thing is, if the McCanns didn`t have so much money to keep the search alive, they might have accepted that fact (as much as anyone can accept the loss of a child) and would have tried to find some kind of closure.>

[vodkancoke]

I don't have children so I have no idea how Kate McCann feels, I can only imagine....however, my parents would never ever have left us on our own as my Mum's biggest fear was that a fire broke out wherever we were. We were always sat at the table with our parents and fell asleep at the table. My parents will tell you themselves they aren't the best parents in the world(I would disagree...to me they are amazing!) but we were never out of their site especially at such a young age and that's the thing that bothers me about this. She was only 3 almost 4 and her little brother and sister were only 2! Way too young to be left alone whether you can see the apartment ot not! I don't understand why people think that's ok! I think the McCanns could have done things very differently and I'm sure they are living with the guilt every day, and so they should. (IN MY OPINION!! lol) I for one wont be buying her book, but she has every right to write one if they need the money for the fund. She was honest about that at least.

[vodkancoke]

*sight....it's late!

[ladybirder]

vodka I don't think people think it was OK to leave them but they did, and going on and on about it ad infinitum doesn't help and doesn't change anything and worse takes the attention away from the abductor, the real villain of the piece.

[pastafreak]

I remember newspaper interviews at the time,with other, nice middle class parents at the same resort complex as the McCanns. Many said that leaving children alone in the apartments was not uncommon.So-are they all bad parents because of what was common practice-on holiday,in an area most likely perceived as much safer than most UK middle-class neighbourhoods?
As another poster said...your guard goes down on holiday-your usual worries or concerns seem to be in another environment completely.
I can remember leaving my daughter in her bedroom,while her dad and I did evening gardening in a 400ft long garden....I guess we were irresponsible......

[DTCwordfan]

and we feel bad pasta. We left our daughter in a hotel bedroom in the States, albeit with a short wave radio to radio link to the (hotel)restaurant table some 100 yards away I guess, and also with the reception listening in on the phone - in a 5 diamond resort (but we were still exposed in retrospect to the McCann scenario or whatever).

[I.Don No]

I am still at a loss to discover that some people think that the McCanns did nothing wrong and that I am verbally abused for my opinion. IMO it was neglect and bad judgement.

This will be my last posting on this thread and we will have to agree to disagree.

[pastafreak]

Hindsight is a wonderful thing-we've all been there -if we are honest enough to admit it. It's just that someone,somewhere-will be unlucky-like the McCanns.None of us can possibly know what they feel unless we are unfortunate enough to be in their shoes.

[jackthehat]

You will be hard-pressed to find a solitary person who believes that Kate & Gerry 'did no wrong'.......the more compassionate of us are simply trying to point out that the price they are paying for their mistake is nigh on unbearable.

By all means exercise your right to moralise but don't come over all offended when you are shown that many people disagree with you.

[BAKERS DOZEN]

I know you cannot buy it here in England but I am going to read the book by Goncalo Amaral to get the portugese version of events. Just Google and his name and you can read the english translation. Its always best to get two sides of an argument before making a decision.

[DTCwordfan]

I.don

//I am still at a loss to discover that some people think that the McCanns did nothing wrong and that I am verbally abused for my opinion. IMO it was neglect and bad judgement//

Yes to the IMO bit, but an awful lot of us have done less and probably been exposed....bad judgement, yes.

Yes, you would have softened the message with showing some compassion

You have //been verbally abused for your opinion// Personally, I think you are being over-sensitive. I do not think it is direct at you but rather the lack of compassion in your original message, plus the D-Mail sign off you wrote.......that is the learning point

[flip_flop]

Quite JTH & DT.

The original posting was pernicious.

[starone]

My first child was killed in a road accident fifty-five years ago. I have never forgiven myself for not keeping a closer watch on him. It only takes less than a minute to lose a child. I have two more and I over-protected them, hardly letting them out of my sight. I don't know what effect that may have had on them. I look at the McCann's situation and think, at least I know what happened to my child, they will probably never know what happened to theirs. However, I do not agree with all the raz-a-mataz surrounding this. Surely grief should be private.

[Bbbananas]

For Funks Sake, the woman and her husband made a gross error in leaving them unattended. They, and Maddie, have paid the price and will be doing for ever more. She is doing the book to raise funds to continue the search for her little girl - would you ever give up on your missing child?

The stick this woman has come in for I think is awful. I cannot imagine how she has felt these last years. The book was perhaps not the wisest of decisions - it has just put her in the firing line for even more flak. But she has lost a child, she has had no closure because she knows not what happened to her daughter. It is very easy to criticise parents like the McCanns unless you, God forbid, have been in their position. Are any of us, have any of us been perfect parents in every aspect of our parenting?

[mazie]

Well, I for one haven't salla (been a perfect parent) And, well said

[Bbbananas]

There is no such thing as perfect parenting, and we as parents have all made bad decisions or moves at some point or other - but fortunately for the majority of us, these bad decisions have had no longlasting or detrimental effect.

The vitriol directed towards Kate in particular has at times took my breath away.

[Sqad]

salla....well said.....however they have other children to consider and it seems that the husband has come to terms with th tragedy.
It would seem that Kate is now going to make this a life long crusade and in doing so might divert love and attention the rest of the family......including the husband.